Change and “Not Getting It!”
Tuesday May 27, 2008
8:45 p.m.
Seth… Good evening.
Group… Good evening.
Seth… A pleasure to have all of you here this evening. We do will some housekeeping. I would like to make for this evening a number of position changes, do not sit Isabella. I want you near me over here, yes right there. Ah, Frank please take that seat there and let George go there.
Frank… Alright.
Isabella… We are being separated. (There was mumbling and discussion.) Is that the rational or I’m being punished?
Seth… I don’t punish, I don’t judge, I just require certain things that you will adhere to.
Lastly and under the terms of our housekeeping, a bit of work, Kaetorina, please tell the man through whom I speak I would like him to be a lot more diligent in terms of his listening to the tapes and doing what he is supposed to be doing.
Stephanie… These tapes?
Seth… Yes. The ones upstairs…
Stephanie… Not the ones that are typed?
Seth… Yes, finishing them and re-listening to them that our friend Frank and Isabella have and I believe that he has to get some work (done) there.
Let us hope our newcomer Joanne (Joanne was a friend and neighbor of Frank’s.) will enjoy her experience.
Under our subject of Change, there are great many facets if you will to the concept of Change. It is quite factual that many individuals choose not to change. In other words, you can rephrase it in modern terminology by having them clearly state, they just don’t get it. These are individuals who ask for advice when they are upset, when they are feeling desperate, when they are as best as can be described, at loose ends. Their histrionics leads them into places where they cannot be rational. Yet, no matter what they do, no matter how many questions they ask, the concept of changing themselves escapes them.
Jasmine, would you like me to wait for you?
Jasmine… No, I’m alright.
Seth… It escapes them because change itself requires dedication to self. Most of these individuals will profess the idea that they are working diligently. They cry out for assistance, yet they will make excuse after excuse not to listen. So, the question here arises, how do you deal with individuals who choose this path? You deal with them by routinely bringing them back to the position that they refuse to see.
Isabella… You should deal with bringing them back?
Seth… To the position that they refuse to see. The alcoholic for example knows full well that they have great difficulty. They are at best an addictive individual, yet they make excuses for not. They routinely choose to lose their possessions, loss of a job, a wife, respect for family and friends eludes them. They cannot fathom confrontation. They believe that individuals are picking on them. They see themselves as a victim of others. So, the question here again comes back to haunt them, how do I change when everyone else is incorrect? Why is it necessary for…
Jasmine… Everyone else is correct?
Frank… Incorrect,
Seth… Incorrect. Why is it necessary for me to demean myself by believing that the others know more than I do? I can do this whenever I choose to. I don’t have a problem. It is you or you who have difficulty in understanding. Change for them means a loss of control. I know that I can should I desire to do so. The question you ask these individuals is simple, why? Why is it that others see you differently than you see yourself? Is it weakness, fear, loss of self-respect? These are the issues that individuals have.
One deals with many types of these issues, the person who is a nonstop speaker who hogs conversation is afraid. Perhaps they will know who and what I am. The individual who is a hypochondriac who has one illness after another is afraid to become well and whole. Do for me. I require it. Change itself demands truthfulness. It is far too easy for those who inhabit the physical plane to deceive themselves into believing what they choose to make their own reality. So, the question arises, what reality have you made? What do you do to promote self? And are you willing to take responsibility for the ideas that you do not embrace? So, I ask each of you a question, look back and study yourself and see what you have not embraced. Do you require assistance but have chosen not to get it?
So, a simple assignment for each of you is to list five aspects of you that you have not yet chosen to deal with. (Adventurous reader, it would indeed be prosperous for you to do this exercise! FN) How truthful will you be? Or is it a simple matter that you do not get it? The universe will give you that which you require. Do you promote yourself when the world around you seems to fall apart or do you become angry and lash out against the invisible foe? How do you make change when you do not spend enough money on yourself?
We all know individuals who are overachievers, some would call them workaholics. They go out of their way to produce. They push aside anyone or anything that gets in their way. They choose not to be second class citizens, yet for most they achieve the promotion of the idea of self. Yet in reality they do not promote themselves. They focus only on the idea of… (dot, dot dot) They use friendship and loyalty to promote themselves at the expense of others. They demand one hundred percent from everyone else but give very little in return. They overreact to the slightest imagined problem. Everything becomes massive. They go from one catastrophe to another. One problem is never truly solved, it rears its face over and over again. They choose to forgo anything that stands in their way of success. The question here is what is success? How does one define that which is profitable as compared to that which is truly worthy of self? How do these individuals tally up their balance sheet? Is it in terms of money or should it be in terms of growth and development of self? That question is always left unanswered. These individuals overreact routinely. Road rage and violence are part of the cultural phenomena that mass consciousness is dealing with at this point of reference. There is great anger in the world. These individuals, I could have easily said these countries, view life as insignificant. They look to promote themselves in all circumstances. They will not take a backseat to anyone or anything.
The idea of change should be obvious. Change should allow you as an individual to shine. To promote yourself so that success follows you. How does one define success depending upon the soul age? Learning to stay alive and learning to fit in, to find your place within a society. Is it dealing with the physical plane and all it has to offer, money, power, authority? Is success learning to understand relationship issues? How do I deal with my husband or wife? What is my relationship to friends, family? How do I deal with money? What is my relationship to adversity, to difficulty? How do I handle the ideas that plague me? Do I fall apart, or do I rise like cream to the surface? Can I blend in with others or must I stand alone? Do I give of myself because I know something higher exits? Do I look to promote the wellbeing of others as a shepherd tends his flock? What can I give of self? How do I look to guide others so that their future can be made more comfortable? Do I smooth the road ahead for them? Or do I allow them to fail and then pick them up, dust them off and send them back on their way? These are the questions that souls of different age face. What have you done to change?
So once again we have come full circle. What don’t you understand? Why do the same problems plague you? Why are your chance encounters so similar? What about your seasonal players? (Seth has described life on the physical plane as being in a play. You are the star of your play as others are the star of their own plays. There are three types of supporting actors in your play. The first are “Chance Encounters” where the universe sends learning through a chance person, thing or event. The second is called a “Seasonal Player” who would be involved in your play to teach maybe one or two things of consequence but may not be that deep. Finally we have “The Life Time Player” who teaches many lessons at many levels.) What direction are they pointing you in? Are you an individual who needs to describe yourself and your family but not care or listen or understand there are others who have similar difficulties? Do you shine by carefully promoting that which increases your growth, or do you just pat yourself on the back and say I’m doing a good job; I’m working my hardest? How does that promote you? How does that make you feel? Each of you must view change as the very essence of your core beliefs.
Achievement is based upon that which you choose to become, not that which you are. Your own growth and development have always depended upon your ability to change. Have you ever noticed that there are many individuals who seem old at thirty? Have you ever wondered at how or why individuals are young and spry at eighty-five? The difference between these types of individuals is greater than the known universe. The question is here, which one are you? What do you choose to become and how do you choose to make changes? These are the questions that plague individuals for lifetime after lifetime. Sit down with yourself, meditate, contemplate you and you will find in many instances that what you believe is factual is in reality a camouflage system that allows you no growth.
I believe at this point we shall take a break.
(9:25 P.M.)
Seth… Let us continue.
Are there any questions?
Isabella… What if the person knows that they have to change and they know exactly what it is they have to change but still have a hard time changing?
Seth… Well, let’s ask a simple question, since you have sought advice routinely from any number of people including myself but have chosen to disregard it, ignore it, and believe you should walk upon your own path then I highly encourage you to do so. (Somebody sneezed, another said, “Bless you.” With Seth then stating, “Interesting.” This has been repeated behavior in sessions. Seth explained once referring to The Middle Ages and fear of spirits and here we are still doing it in the 21st Century.) I highly encourage you to do so because you will choose not to learn until you choose to learn.
Isabella… That’s not the case because my body is in conflict over knowing what the right thing to do is.
Seth… There is no conflict.
Isabella… Yeah, there is a conflict.
Seth… No there is none.
Isabella… I feel a physical conflict.
Seth… No, there is no conflict, you will either do something, or you will not. The rest is an excuse. The rest is, the tension, the pressures, the worry, the upset-ness. All of this in reaction to I don’t get it!
Isabella… No, I get it, I just don’t…
Seth… No, you don’t get it. If you understood it and believed that change was necessary, then you would do it. The others are excuses for not. For example, when you are dealing with the idea here of getting tenure, you remember this clearly and information was given to you which was simple, do not take sides, do not speak to other individuals, do not offer opinion. You completely understood those words clearly, but you did not listen. You did not make them real to you, so therefore you know what occurred.
Isabella… Yes.
Seth… You didn’t get it, so until you could unlearn what you thought you knew and replace it with something else you suffer. Well, the truth here is you have an absolute right (underline the word absolute right.) to follow your own path. It doesn’t make it practical at times, it doesn’t make it favorable at times, but I hardly encourage you to follow your own path. But if you choose to be sullen, angry, bothered, sad, annoyed, frustrated then you only have one person to ask yourself a question. Why do I not get it? What fear prevents me from doing this?
Isabella… What is the fear?
Seth… That’s for you to figure out. I’m not going to help you. Do you understand so far?
Isabella… Yes, it’s just important.
Seth… Well, that is perfectly acceptable.
Are there any other questions?
Then let me leave you with this: Each of you makes choices, those choices help define you into who and what you are and what you choose to become. When your choices are successful you will understand it, you will not overreact, you will polish yourselves to a high luster. Your needs will be fulfilled, and your wants lessened.
I bid you all a very fond good evening.
(Session ended at 9:44 P.M.)