Seth 408
Stress and Committing to Yourself but Balancing Your Efforts
Tuesday June 23, 2009
8:30 PM
Seth… Good evening, it is a pleasure to have all of you here with me again this evening. We shall start with a small bit of housekeeping. First to the man through whom I speak I am pleased he has gotten the book I have requested him to read, and it would be nice for him to read more than one page a day. Second, Isabella, not taking notes detracts from your learning while you do not believe this is factual, the process of learning in this instance is tactile as well as auditory as well as visual. Kaetorina I will deal with a few subjects with you in private.
Now: We shall start again with our master subject of Change. Of course, we are on our road to misery and are still dealing with stressful situations. One of the great difficulties that individuals have that causes stress which leads to dis-ease is the fact that most individuals unfortunately on a routine basis do not commit to themselves. A simple example of this may be seen by the following statement one person will say to another do you know how many times I’ve quit smoking? The answer to this question is simple and that of course is zero. It is the lack of commitment to self to make a proper change that causes individuals to worry about, become fearful of that which they are trying to do. It is foolish for anyone to believe that they can make a change under these circumstances without being faithful to self. When one does not allow themselves a full measure of effort it is impossible for that individual to succeed with any routine regularity.
An example here may be seen with a student who does not routinely study for his or her examinations. The following course of events makes our student stressful and upset. The first area of dis-ease is clearly seen in the worry about the examination itself. Statements such as I don’t know why I didn’t study harder. I hope the teacher doesn’t put this on the exam. These events themselves force our student to become a victim of themselves. In our hypothetical situation let us assume that our student receives an A or a B on this examination. What is the learning that is now incorporated into our student? The lesson here is obvious. When one does not apply themselves and receives an adequate mark one soon believes that work is unnecessary to achieve their desired goal. As our student continues on their path of learning they make more and more excuses for not doing the work that has been laid out before them. They delude themselves into believing that just by sitting in a classroom or hearing a lecture will be enough to incorporate that material into themselves. After a while our student will start seeing his/her grades plummet. These students become defensive and angry at the system since they do not understand that they themselves have created their own difficulties. Without an intervening individual our student will continue their slide to failing grades.
Individuals who pretend that they are working as hard as they can make excuses such as “As long as I have the material on my blackberry, I will read it numerous times.” When one in any situation does not commit to themselves, they are in reality deceiving themselves due to the fact that they choose to believe that they are a sponge and can absorb all the nutrients that they require. It is obvious that individuals victimize themselves either out of fear, laziness or out of concern that they do not have the ability to progress in whatever endeavor they have undertaken.
The road to misery is strewn with the carcasses of these individuals who have labored under the idea that someone else must feed them. These individuals do not have faith in themselves. They refuse to believe that they are worth the effort that is required to promote themselves. (The above is a foreshadowing of our next major topic of learning which is Belief vs Faith that begins as of session 411. F.N.) These individuals find it convenient to worry about what others see in them. How can someone love me when I in reality do not love myself? How do I know that my friend is truly there for me when I am not there for myself? The question arises routinely, how do I know? This type of stress permeates many individuals. The desire to be confident and to feel approved by others is massive within these type of individuals. It is necessary for these individuals to understand that without a commitment to self it is impossible for success to find them.
Individuals who routinely suffer from the same dis-ease have not learned from past experience. They are so fearful, and stressed over futuristic events that they do not function adequately where their greatest point of power is. That of course is the present. Many lectures ago I suggested that one must make note of your chance encounters. These seemingly random acts or events are in reality signposts for you to not only observe but to learn from. The individual who has gotten three speeding tickets and wonders why his insurance premiums have risen clearly does not understand his past. The individual who is divorced and finds a new mate will often find their new mate is in reality the same as their original one. Individuals who do not move along after a close friend or relative has ended their incarnation become stuck in the past, they have not learned. The individual who cannot or will not look at problems that repeat over and over again has not committed to themselves and suffers from stress-related disorders. They find it easier to hide from the truth than to work at improving themselves.
It should be noted here that hard work carries with it no guarantee of success! Far too many of your self-help books imply that if you work hard you must succeed. Nothing on the physical plane guarantees success. The question arises if you work hard, and you dedicate yourself to whatever project you have why can’t you be assured of a positive outcome? The answer here is simple, one may not turn right without having the ability to turn left. One cannot be correct without having the probability of being incorrect. These simplistic ideas are often forgotten by most who inhabit the physical plane. How often have each of you heard the phrase but I worked so hard. The delusion here is but a form of a camouflage system that prevents individuals from truly committing to themselves. Each individual must take the responsibility of creating for themselves that which they require. Unfortunately, failure must be learned. If one makes the effort to understand that failure is necessary for learning it becomes clear that if one only experienced success one is incomplete.
There must be a balance between all your efforts. You cannot believe that if you dedicate yourself to only one path you are helping yourself prosper. Individuals who do this become disappointed with the world around them especially if they themselves do not succeed in their chosen endeavor. Worse yet is the individual who does succeed in one line but is not balanced. There will come a point of reference when that individual must “retire” from that endeavor. The question here arises what now? What do I do with the rest of my incarnation? An unbalanced individual cannot and will not be centered on the physical plane. No matter what their success they will feel a lack and then create a void within themselves. They cannot fathom the idea that they no longer have the ability to continue on. Often, they are depressed and certainly angry over these events. Each of you must balance your efforts to become whole. The individual who reads only mysteries looks at the world and sees a mysterious place which they cannot understand.
I believe at this point we shall take a break.
9:18 PM
Seth… Let us continue. It is obvious that the balancing of one’s efforts will center individuals so that their greatest point of power is now. When one has unilateral interests, you tend to be drawn off center in the vain attempt to prove to yourself that you can accomplish that which you believe you require without the benefit of work in other areas. If you only let us, say enjoy sports whether it be playing a game or watching television your interests are unilateral. When your team does not succeed you run the gamut of emotions which start with hope and end with failure. Since you are then pulled away from your center position you have lost your great ability to create that which you require. An interest in any line of study is just that an interest, it is not more or less important than any other line of study.
Commonly souls who inhabit the physical plane may incarnate with one idea or plan. As they move along, their interest in that line of study diminishes and quite commonly, they will find something else to fill the void that has been created. Note here that I am not saying that our individual soul is finished with their first line of study. I am stating that they have moved away from that line of interest. They of course will pick up their original plan in any other incarnation that they choose to pursue their original line of study. It is foolish to believe that an individual who is not flexible can succeed in any line of study. One must always have the ability to focus in upon that which interests them. Now I am not stating that one must become overwhelmed with their new interest. Please note that when one is consumed by any line of study it is in fact a warning sign to that individual that they are being dragged away from their point of power.
It is impossible to commit to oneself if you do not balance yourself with any number of interests. While it seems profitable to work as hard as one can on any particular line of study, in reality that idea causes an imbalance within that individual. A clear example of this may be seen with the idea of an individual who decides to lose weight. Commonly they become so obsessed with their weight loss and their new set of values. This causes themselves as well as others dis-ease due to the stress that they have placed upon this new line of study.
Are there any other questions?
Isabella… How do you get passed the how do I know place?
Seth… When an individual is mired down with the idea of “how do I know?” It becomes an all-consuming set of horrors. Individuals who are in this place first victimize others by words or by deeds. This of course develops into a trust issue. The question here may be stated in whom do I trust? The common belief and the question that is asked is how do I know that the other will do for me, love me, like me or be there for me on a routine basis? This question itself is where the difficulty lies. The question is not whether the other is trustworthy but are you trustworthy? Let me explain. When one does not trust the other it is a clear indication that you yourself are having difficulty with whatever problem you foresee or imagine in the other. If you do not trust a person to pay back the money you have lent them then in reality you are stating that I would probably try to avoid paying back that which I owe. When one questions another in terms of loyalty one is routinely drawing on their own experiences and stating how do I know that I will be loyal. As stated earlier this evening, what have you learned from your past? These type of questions victimize first the other individual and they routinely become resentful! More importantly you victimize yourself due to the fact that you are reinforcing the idea that you have a lack of trust in yourself. To have a proper relationship one must commit to themselves so that your dealings with others become balanced and fair. Remember that which you fear you bring to yourself. That which you accept and move past is a learning experience and promotes your growth.
Isabella… So, when I ask my routine how do I know questions am I really asking will I do those things?
Seth… Correct. You don’t feel it but that is what you mean. You cannot project upon someone else your fears. Your fears are unique to you. If one looks in a simplistic manner at the actions of another, fear-based ideas come from experience from that other person. Your experiences have shaped and molded that which you are. One then questions the interpretation of your experiences with other individuals. The how do I know question is based upon the idea of a futuristic event. Fear is always futuristic therefore when you project outward you are really asking how do I know that I am worth it, how do I know if I can trust myself to be the individual that I want the other to be for me. Your experiences with ideas clearly demonstrate that you are far too concerned with futuristic questions since the future itself is as changeable as the past or present. You move yourself in a direction toward unhappiness, you do this out of the mistaken idea you can’t trust others yet when questioned you have no valid interpretation of these events.
Isabella… From the other person?
Seth… Correct… The question than arises since you have no valid interpretation from the other their can only be one other idea do I trust myself? Since your experience proves that you cannot trust yourself…
Isabella… What do you mean trust myself that I am worth it?
Seth… Not only that you are worth it but that you are honorable, that you are loyal, that you will follow in what you deem now is a correct manner. Your interpretation from your ego centered viewpoint is limited. You have what may be best described as tunnel vision as do most people with the same set of ideas. One must attempt to look at the larger picture and open your viewpoint so that you understand the idea of trusting yourself first so that you will be able to trust in others.
Are there any other questions?
Frank… The idea of having a number of interests for balance reminds me of the natural approach. I asked Jerry earlier if there was something I could do daily to help me “pick up the different crumbs from the table” and not be so linear?
Seth… The question itself asks us to give you information that would disenfranchise your own creative abilities. It is not for me to tell you or anyone for that matter how to live your life that choice must always be yours.
Are there any other questions?
Arthur… So, if I don’t trust Joe the taxi driver and I squash that, that brings me the very thing …
Seth… That is correct. Let me give you an example here. If you are in a taxicab and you know that the driver is purposely taking a long route and say nothing, how have you committed to yourself to do the correct thing?
Let me leave you with this. Change may be accomplished in any line of study by understanding yourself. That which you do not enjoy hinders your growth, your wants are magnified, your stress levels increase, and you become miserable. Dis-ease often follows, and your needs will hardly be met if at all. A hearty good evening to all.
(Session ended 10:19)