Change: Be Like the Radiant Flower
Tuesday Oct 2, 2007
8:25 p.m.
Seth… Good evening. A pleasure to have all of you here again. We shall do a little bit of housekeeping work. First of all, Kateorina!
Stephanie… Yes?
Seth… I will deal with both you and the man through whom I speak and about your numbers after the session is over.
Stephanie… Emm hmm.
Seth… You may tell him you asked for this. Three days ago, you certainly did. That being stated, Isabella!
Isabella… Oh, boy.
Seth… No, oh, boy. First of all, I believe you certainly should take pride in a great many of the things that you have accomplished this week. Would you not agree with me?
Isabella… I agree.
Seth… It is also obvious from your patterns and reactions if you will that there are numerous times when you feel that both the man through whom I speak, and Jasmine do not appreciate that which you are and what you do for them. Would you agree with that?
Isabella… Yes.
Seth… So, since the problem exists and we would like to put an end to their, let us be fair here, looking at you in an adverse manner. Would you agree with that?
Isabella… Yes.
Seth… Then I believe then what you should do is that on a day-to-day basis, make them aware of that which you have done for the family dynamic. Is that not appropriate?
Isabella… It is.
Seth… Well since that is then therefore appropriate then what I believe you should do is make them pay the penalty for that which they are not doing. Would you agree with that?
Isabella… Uh huh.
Seth… Now, so what I would like you to do please, is you could keep a piece of paper. You may put it on your refrigerator and anything that you do for a group dynamic; I am using this only as an example, not necessary as something that you would choose to do or have to do. Do you understand?
Isabella… Emm hmm.
Seth… For example, do all the laundry. I am just using that as an example; I could have used another example ah, making coffee. The examples do not have to be specific. What I ‘d like you to do every day is write down on a piece of paper that which you have done for the group dynamic. You understand what I mean?
Isabella… Em hmm.
Seth… Now so, make them pay the penalty for their being, let us be fair not helpful. I would like them to initial it for you, so you make absolutely certain in your mind that they know what they are doing or missing, is that not fair?
Isabella… Em hmm.
Seth… So, you approve of all this?
Isabella… Yeah.
Seth… I believe then that we now have a solution to the whole “look what I have done for you situation you do not appreciate me” situation. (Isabella is agreeing in the background.) Any problem with that?
Isabella… None
Seth… See, as hard as it is for you to understand I can be fair in both directions. So, you are going to do this. Whatever you choose to do or put down is fine and you are going to make sure that they initial it or sign it and please make sure that they both do because the tendency is for one to say, “well the other one told me” and of course they didn’t and that was their responsibility that they must both be aware of that which you are, fair enough?
Isabella… Yes.
Seth… Okay, that all being said we can now move along out of housekeeping and I would like to tell you all a story. The story concerns and this has been told in many times and in many different ways but the story concerns under our general category of Change: Two individuals happen to be walking along, male and female and they are taking a hike through the woods, and they happen to notice this beautiful small, little flower tucked away by itself. The flower is large standing on a small spindly stem, but it captures their imaginations. And they both look at the beauty of this flower and they become enamored with the magnificence. And so, they stop, and they appreciate, they may even meditate with this flower, how it stood apart, alone if you will and cast its beauty out for anyone who happened to pass by. And it then became obvious that the individuals themselves could do the same for themselves. They could stand apart and have their radiance shine out to the others around them. Their magnificence if you will is a very individual type of situation. The intimacy of the moment with the flower must be considered in life as intimacy with all those who surround you. Now, when one shares intimate feelings and thoughts such as each of you do here around the table you are indeed giving of self. You are casting out to the universe parts of you that you choose others to see. In other words, you open yourself up and you spread out that which you are. This is indeed one of the great aspects of Change. Many individuals cannot accept others looking at them in terms of how they as individuals feel about themselves and they fear how others will judge them. At times new ideas, new thoughts act as an enigma, they fear them, they are new, they cannot, they place themselves off center, they become distracted so that they cannot and will not allow change to occur since they truly believe that change is always accompanied by difficulty. A clear indication of that may be seen by each of you who sits around the table this evening. I could easily pick apart all your difficulties and conversations… I will pause. (There was something wrong with the coffee pot and there was a lot of attending conversation.) And your last words Kateorina that you dictated not dictated but received? (Different people repeated.) I could easily pick apart each of your difficulties in your conversations that each of you had over the last any number of hours, minutes, seconds, days it matters not. And all of you and the readers of this material will find that they refused to open themselves at times to new ideas, new ways of looking at things for most individuals habitually refuse to accept ideas that another gives since those ideas are contrary to what they have previously been taught to believe. Most individuals routinely make the same or similar choices over and over again. They drive the same way to work, buy the same type of clothing. Their dating patterns are the same. Their work habits remain unchanged and even when they allow themselves the luxury of change, they commonly stumble and fall back upon their tried and true methods. Therefore, one may look at the idea that the same choices always lead one to the same results. Now, the question arises, our individual here complains, “Why is this always happening to me? I never meet the nice man or woman. I never seem to get the promotion. I don’t have that many friends. I always seem to be lost and I am looking for something. My husband/wife does not understand me. I don’t understand the other individuals who are around me.” And this dear students is a clear indication that these individuals are still routinely making the same choices and getting the same results. Yet they complain and do nothing to assist themselves in their fight against failure. For those of you who have not noticed summer has ended and summer brings to most individuals who inhabit the physical plane a warmth and feelings of growth and prosperity. Their lives seem to bloom. The fruits of our labors are rewarded. You harvest that which you have sown. Yet the fear of what is coming causes most individuals to choose the status quo. Each season brings with it… Would you like me to pause, Isabella?
Isabella… No
Seth… Each season brings with it a renewal of… (Again, there was difficulty with the coffee pot.) Do not pour it I am telling you; you must add a number of things of water to that. That does not come from me by the way. I personally do not care. (Stephanie is laughing.)
Each seasonal change brings with it the renewal of one’s ability to accept and experiment with the differences in each one’s existence. Spring is the rebirth, summer is the growth and development season, fall is the harvest season and winter allows one to rest from their labors. Change must be viewed as the change of seasons. It gives one the ability to understand and appreciate that which you are. If I were to ask each of you and we shall at this point a simple question: what do you want or desire or need, however you would phrase the question to yourself? Let us see what kind of answers we would get. Who would choose to start us off? You will pass it around that way.
Stephanie… Contentment.
Seth… You would choose contentment.
Shanna… I think I missed the question.
Seth… My question was very simple, each of you must answer the idea as to that which you want or need or desire, however you want to phrase it. So, what do you in your existence believe is something that you would want, need or desire? We have one answer of contentment.
Shanna… That I don’t already have?
Seth… Correct.
Shanna… I don’t know. I don’t know if there is something…
Seth… We will come back to you.
Jasmine… Happiness.
Frank… Prosperity.
George… Companionship.
Isabella… Happiness and a better body. (There was giggling.) He asked me, what do you want?
Matthew… A soul mate, love companionship.
Seth… And?
Shanna… I really can’t think.
Seth… Well, we will wait for you then.
Shanna… Umm, I guess more balance.
Seth… What does that mean?
Shanna… I don’t know, balance, light, balance.
Seth… You have not stated anything.
Shanna… Balance in belief sets.
Seth… We will allow that to go. So now my next question (Shanna began to hand over the microphone) do not, you will start (Frank laughing). Now my next question, each of you has made a statement from that which you need want or desire and my question is simple: What have you done to achieve that which you have stated you needed or wanted or desired?
Shanna… What have I done to achieve that? Umm, I started to go to therapy.
Seth… Started to go to therapy, see there was an answer there.
Shanna… That was an easy one.
Jasmine… What was the question? (Several people repeated the question.) Worked hard in therapy.
Frank… I am speaking to Jerry on a weekly basis, and I have also started to do certain workshops to further my practice.
George… I have made new friends, introduced myself into new situations and chosen new activities.
Isabella… Well, my whole life has changed hence forcing me to look deeper into myself and make changes within myself to promote my own happiness. Um, but the better body situation, I did the cleanse but then I really have not done much since to help with the better body situation.
Matthew… I have worked on accepting myself. I’ve worked on spiritual growth. Um and having a different outlook and approach to other people and life in general and I am forcing myself to step out of my comfort zone and approach people and situations differently.
Seth… Kaetorina?
Stephanie… Oh, lots of work, (Laughs) with the man through whom you speak and others around me and starting to workout again and reading and kids and introspection and changing how I view certain things.
Seth… Now all that has been stated, Betty? (Betty has a phone connection and is not physically present at the table.)
Betty… Yes.
Seth… What do you desire most?
Betty… You’re crackling.
Group… What?
Betty… I missed; I didn’t hear the question.
Seth… The question was: What do you desire? What do you want, have, need?
Betty… Oh, very similar things, contentment, peace.
Seth… And what have you done to achieve them?
Betty… I’ve really worked on my attitude, and I guess sought assistance when I needed it.
Seth… Now that we have had all of you answer. Give us a moment… for the most part when I tell you that most individuals delude themselves into truly believing that they are either doing something, getting something or working at something. Since that which you have professed that which you desire and do not have and for the most part is not even in sight, one must therefore conclude that you need to change your sense of direction. That which is comfortable must be made uncomfortable. That which is routine must be made extraordinarily different. That which makes you unhappy must be made into something that is joyful. That which is difficult must be promoted, shaped, formed into something that is magnificent. Remember the flower in the beginning portion of this evening sending its beauty out to all those who would stop and think and appreciate. The question arises again what have each of you done to show your appreciation for yourself? Wishing does not make it so. A change of direction causes a change in perception of that which you are to that which you hope to become.
Do not be afraid of change. Change your direction. Change your perceptions and in doing so you will bring to yourself that which you require. And when those ideas come forth you will be amazed at the progress that each of you will make. I believe at this time we shall take a break.
Seth… Let us continue: I believe that it would be profitable for all of you to understand that Change itself is a way out towards a better existence. For if you could not change there is no growth. Are there any questions?
Frank… Sure, I’m having a little bit of trouble just connecting the idea of, you know the couple and the flower casting out their magnificence and how that’s the main thing of change? Is that embracing change? How is that change?
Seth… It is everything you could ever possibly imagine and more so. The flower was giving out its intimate beauty to the world. The people who appreciate it opened themselves up and allowed the flower into themselves, then opened themselves up to allow their magnificence to radiate outward.
Jasmine… Is opening up equal to the change?
Seth… Opening up is change.
Frank… Why wouldn’t you just go back on to the tried and true ways?
Seth… Why would you? Most people do, most people take the same route to work every day because they are used to it. Most people in relationships act the same way over and over and over again and if they didn’t most of you therapists would be out of business.
Frank… Cyndi and I went out. We were invited over a couple’s house Sunday night after an event, it was very enjoyable and there was a lot of sharing like that.
Seth… Sharing like what?
Frank… Sharing intimacies of family situations and there was a very nice feeling about that. So, I understand that concretely that that feels good. I just don’t necessarily connect it to, okay now there is a change.
Seth… No, you make the change. One makes a change by doing something differently. One incorporates that which someone else says into you and you follow a different path. You don’t have to and therefore you keep things at status quo and if you keep the status quo what has occurred? The answer is nothing.
Frank… Okay. If I shine out, how am I taking in from somebody else and changing my direction?
Seth… By allowing it.
Frank… By just shining out in the first place?
Seth… By allowing others to give to you what you are giving to them. You are becoming intimate with another individual. For example, in your conversations with the man through whom I speak are not both of you being intimate?
Frank… Yes.
Seth… Is there now a difference in the way you are perceiving your world around you?
Frank… Yes, somewhat.
Seth… Therefore, you gave, and you took and the intimacy, the radiance that both of you gave out made both of you different.
Frank… That makes it clearer.
Betty… So, in other words that is like saying there is two ways to shine the light one is to be the candle the other is to be the mirror that reflects it?
Seth… Yes and no. In other words, just because someone gives out something does not mean it is appropriate for you or inappropriate for that matter. If you are open and intimate with the outside world, meaning people other than yourself you are allowing yourself the luxury of accepting differences on many different subject areas. Your lines of study are no longer the same and therefore you have accepted change into self by allowing yourself the luxury of perceiving the universe in a different manner.
When you as an individual allow yourself to be open and intimate with others you have a choice. The choice is simple you can accept or reject any or all of that which they are, that which they are presenting to you. When you open yourself up and become intimate with them your lines of study, the things you are interested in, allow you to make differences in the way in which you perceive your world.
You must be on the idea that I can reformulate ideas. That which you thought was correct this afternoon may be incorrect this evening and so you must be available for movement. It is the personality that is rigid, who only does things in a certain way that causes difficulties. The flexible individual does well. There is a song that explains the difference between the young tree in the winter that bends and an old tree from the weight of the ice and snow that snaps. One lives, one dies. Be flexible!
One of the major reasons that individuals learn by having an ability to review something constantly and when presented with the idea that this is for my benefit most people rail against the idea. The person who is morbidly obese rails against the idea of going on a diet to lose weight. Individuals who have heart conditions commonly still smoke yet it is a direct factor of smoking and heart and stroke that they should be aware of yet they ignore this but when forced with the idea of, you are not going to live more than a year and a half if you are doing what you are doing Shirley Sarah immediately changed her perception of smoking and decided, this is a foolish thing to do I am going to make a change and I will never smoke again.
Let me leave you all with this: When one is on the same course, makes the same choices, one receives the same results. Summer allows you to reap that which you have sown. Know what you desire to make plans to receive it. And when you choose to receive it properly your needs will be fulfilled, and you wants lessened. Use change effectively; be the flower who gives off its perfume and beauty. Let others drink you in. Be the spring water and the oasis that nourishes the weary traveler, which of course is you. I bid you all a very fond, good evening.
(Session ended at 9:56 P.M.)
