Seth 362
Roles and Change
March 4, 2008
8:30 p.m.
Seth… Good evening. A pleasure to have all of you here again. Isabella, I notice that you have not finished the session and therefore questions will not be accepted, you understand this?
Isabella… I’m almost done.
Seth… As I can only tell you, there are certain gains where close is good but not in this one.
Isabella… Fine.
Seth… So, whenever you are ready to finish you may go ahead and do it that way.
A little bit more under the housekeeping, George, have you been attempting to open your mind?
George… Yes.
Seth… How are doing with it?
George… Okay.
Seth… What do you mean, okay?
George… I am managing to like to get a few minutes of office time but nothing…
Seth… How often do you do this per day?
George… I average twice.
Seth… Remember you do not need more than three or four minutes at any particular time, and you can certainly improve yourself by doing that so that certainly should give you some help if you understand.
On our subject of Change, we have to again look at the idea: each of you has a role that you play out. Some individuals have an ability to look at their role and question it, others do not. One must learn to shift roles. As an example, here, you have two friends and both of them like to be the leader, the take charge person. This is quite a difficult situation since quite often they will be at odds with each other. You cannot allow yourself to become stagnant in your role. You must have within yourself capacity to ebb and flow. You must change seasons when necessary. This ability of shifting roles if you will, will allow you to accomplish a great deal.
Each of you is made up of numerous viewpoints and attitudes that you at times adhere to, often to the detriment of self. You become used to doing things in certain ways, you are not flexible. With this in mind one may understand the idea that your viewpoints narrow and limit that which you may accomplish at any given point of reference. These facts are self-evident. When things do not go as planned one tends to rail against that which you do not have even at times when what you are receiving has a pleasant and at times profitable outcome.
Now, new lives, incarnations if you will, are not solitary; for the most part you work in combinations with others. If you ask yourself a question, how often do I truly work together with the others who I routinely interact with? It is sad to say that most of you truly believe that you work and play well with others. This is far from being factual. You do not keep things fresh. You habitually follow a routine even when things are very pleasant the routines make them disagreeable. An example here, commonly when men and women make love with one another they routinely follow the same patterns time after time. One of the reasons that married couples and couples who have been together for numerous years tend to look outside of their relationship with the other is due to the fact that nothing changes. That even the pleasure of becoming intimate with another quite often leaves a sour taste with both partners. If you all think back and remember the first time that you became intimate with your significant other, you will notice that the feelings and emotions are there and exciting. They are fresh, you did not know what to expect. You did not know what their actions and reactions would be, and they did not know yours. This clearly demonstrates the necessity of change for even in great moments of pleasure there are often great moments of disappointment. Shift roles, make things different. These are the keys to a successful incarnation. Each of you is capable of improving that which you are.
One of the difficulties with change is the concept that if I can force or make someone change it will repair the damage. Remember students you cannot fix everyone, it is impossible. Nor should you try. Change must come from within. To accomplish this task the roles that you play must be clearly defined. Quite often they are blurry. Each of you must determine for yourself how you will go about attempting change. First you must acknowledge your own pain or discomfort. You must understand that which you are is not that which you choose to be! If I could take a poll and go around and ask each of you, are you content or satisfied with that which you are or are you habitually unhappy, dissatisfied with what you see in the mirror? How many of you have acknowledged your own pain? And by acknowledging it I mean understanding that which is causing you dis-ease. If you do not feel satisfied in what you are doing quite often individuals develop digestive problems since you are eating yourself up. It is quite often obvious to everyone else except for our individual that they are uncomfortable or unhappy. The person who chooses to ignore their gifts such as a piano player may develop arthritis, their hands may become deformed. The individual who has psychic abilities and chooses not to use them may find that they suffer from headaches, shoulders and back will ache.
Isabella… That’s me.
Seth… These are but some of the dis-ease situations that individuals cause themselves. What are you and where are you going? If you have pain what are the causes? These are the types of situations where change needs to be understood before it can become profitable. How many individuals do you know that do not use their gifts properly?
So, my question to each of you is how do you define yourself? What are you? And then how could you make yourself better? Where do you choose to see yourself as something that others look at and choose to emulate? You must shift that which you are and work,towards that which you know will inspire you. It is far too easy to pretend than it is to accomplish. I could have asked Jasmine and Isabella how “The Secret” is coming, I already know the answer. How often do each of you read and reread and look at and study the material that I have given you? How often do each of you come back to a lecture the following week with questions on the last week’s material? What good does it do any of you if you just take notes? EVERY DAY IS AN EXAM! Each of you is tested by yourself. So, the question arises, how many of you have truly passed the exam? How many of you have changed significantly in the last two months? How many of you have examined your belief systems and found them wanting? Clear examples of value-fulfillment and not achieving it may be seen in Kaetorina’s and the man through whom I speak tendency to try to finish a book instead of understanding it and complimenting themselves for their ability to fathom material that is difficult. Have they spoken with each other? Have they challenged each other about an idea or a phrase? When I told both individuals that they had to restart the book on page one the man through whom I speak is on page zero he has not picked up the book again. Kaetorina?
Jasmine… She is on page two. (Frank laughed.)
Seth… She has not really read page one well and you?
Jasmine… I’m on four.
Seth… And you’re on four. I think my idea here is clearly demonstrated. Each of you if we would go around the table and however you define your gift, whatever that is, and each of you obviously has more than one, how many of you would say that you are using your gifts to at least thirty percent? Twenty percent? How many of you don’t even know how many gifts you have? Yet how many of you complain or are chronically unhappy about things that are not? I believe each of you must learn to change, to split your role, to redefine yourself on a moment-to-moment basis on a, (said slowly), moment to moment basis so that you may enjoy that which you are. Is it not tragic that your scientists in survey after survey find that most individuals are unhappy, that they feel that they are lacking? And so, the question is why? And my question to them is what have you done to improve your ideas about self? What have you changed? Have you acknowledged the fact that you are in pain at times? Do you understand that you cannot fix everyone? What ideas do you have to keep things fresh? How do you use your gifts today? These are questions that empower you, that will help you find yourself if you are lost. Enjoy the challenges that the universe provides you. Open your mind to something different. Be true to self and attempt to reconcile difficulties with others.
I believe at this point we shall take a break.
Let us continue: Change itself is often looked at as a disaster, something to be feared. Unfortunately, this attitude is too prevalent in this small corner of the physical plane. Are there any questions?
George… I have a question. At the end we were kind of talking about ways you ask yourself, what have you done to improve your ideas about self or have you changed about yourself today things you can reaffirm yourself on a daily basis with?
Seth… Correct.
George… Like I was trying to think about what kind of role changes am I looking to make?
Seth… Let’s ask the most difficult question that you could ask anybody, are you truly content and happy? The answer is?
George… No.
Seth… No. So if you are not truly content and happy and I would assume if I asked everyone at this table they would answer the same way; if you are not truly content and happy one must examine if you will, (Seth tapped the table indicating to take notes and repeated.) not truly content and happy one must examine if you will, that which is causing you difficulties. One cannot improve that which you are (tapped again) until and unless one makes an effort to determine that which is lacking in you, meaning that you are unfulfilled. Now for example, there are numerous instances when a person has decided to do one thing with their existence and all of a sudden, they find out that being a chef is really what they chose to do that will give them value-fulfillment; so that is a major change. Is it necessary to make major changes if you are dissatisfied? The answer is not necessarily but one must determine (More tapping.) that which you are, that which you are responding to in order for you to define yourself by the question I previously asked. Do you understand?
Jasmine, would you like me to pause here while you answer that? (Phone was ringing.) Guess not.
Do you understand?
George… In order to determine what your true nature is you can’t really know what changes you have to make?
Seth… One must determine what… what was the question I asked you? Start with that one.
George… Are you content?
Seth… (Said forcefully.) Are you content? Are you satisfied? Are you happy? Well, if their answer is no and most instances going around this table you would say no. Not just you but in general. So, you must determine that which you are first to understand that which you are not. Do you understand that statement?
George… I understand the statement and I keep running into like what…
Seth… You are trying to find an answer; I’m trying to give you a method. You cannot understand that which you are not until you understand that what you are, and you do this by one, working with the exercise that I gave you last week and taking small gentle steps and saying, “This doesn’t satisfy me; I would like to try that. Well, now that I tried that, well maybe I’ll try this also and maybe I can combine both and maybe I’ll need a third or a seventh or a fourth.” So, defining yourself takes effort and a constant ability to reexamine that which you are. Does this make more sense to you now?
George… It does make sense; I am just frustrated by it.
Seth… What frustrates you?
George… The amount of trial and error.
Seth… There is no trial and error because you cannot fail. See that is the delusion that people have. The delusion is if I don’t do this, I’ll be unhappy. If I don’t have that I’m unhappy, that is a delusion. If you were to take a look at an old soul and these individuals are looking towards something higher. Old souls very commonly are poor. They don’t have material things but yet they are truly content and happy. They are willing to give of themselves and to take from others in a fair and just manner. They define themselves by that which they accomplish not what they do. Do you understand the difference?
George… Yes.
Seth… For example, if someone came to you with an animal that was in dire need of help and through your skill and challenges you made that animal prosper, would you not take great pride in that which you have accomplished?
George… Yes.
Seth… But that is not who you are, it’s your accomplishment that gives you pleasure. And you can accomplish anything whether it be prescribing a pill, whether it be doing surgery, whether it be curing a splinter, it matters not. Do you see the difference?
George… I understand what you are saying but I think I’m still hung up on being what you are in order to accomplish.
Seth… Can you accomplish anything if you do not know what you are?
George… No.
Seth… And is that not the first thing one must do? Because if you are not satisfied with what you are then you are looking for something that you are not. So, until you can make the change, the shift if you will, until you establish who and what you are, until you then will find what you are not and then if that is what you choose to be so be it. You understand?
Jasmine… I don’t understand that line, “you can’t make a shift until you establish…”
Seth… Who and what you are. Do you understand that?
Jasmine… (Mumbling,) Who and what. Make a shift to being happy?
Seth… In anything, happy, content, satisfied. You may find out that what you are is something that is making you unhappy. (Pause.) Do you follow me so far Jasmine?
Jasmine… Then you said something else?
Seth… Yes.
Stephanie… In establishing what you are not.
Seth… And that will allow you to understand or establish what you are not. If you are not a person who observes negativity but a person who only participates in it, is that profitable for any individual? The answer is no. So, what you are not is a person who can observe and learn as compared to a person who wallows in something.
Isabella… So, what if she… (Unclear.)
Seth… Well, it’s quite simple if you are something that you are not satisfied with, how will you know what you are not? If for example you determine that you no longer enjoy teaching, follow me so far? So, wouldn’t that be necessary if you decide that I do not enjoy teaching and therefore I’m not satisfied. So, you are establishing what you are and then you may look into a different place to try and get it to what you are not at that point of reference.
Jasmine… In that scenario she is…
Seth… She is a teacher.
Jasmine… She knows she…
Seth… She is a teacher.
Jasmine… She knows she is a teacher and that will allow her to know what she isn’t?
Seth… She is not satisfied with being a teacher.
Shanna… Oh, if I say, I am looking at myself, I know I am a teacher and that will help me look at it and see what I am not…
Seth… And I am not happy being a teacher, I am not content with. (Jasmine and Shanna talking at the same time.) Therefore, since you now have established what you are, but you are not content, you must look to what you are not so that you may move and change and move towards that direction. Don’t look at the idea of not as something that is detrimental.
Frank… It is the idea of becoming.
Shanna … Something that you are not already.
Frank… Right, I am not this, this is what I would like to be, but I am not that. Now I will try and make a change to become that! And now, that is what I am.
Isabella… What you are not yet.
Frank… Correct.
Shanna… Right.
Seth… Are there any other questions?
Frank… I actually have a question that is off topic, does anyone have a question on topic first?
Arthur… So is it in a way following a longing, following an aspiration, following a desire or is that…
Seth… When you… it could be any of them (tapped table) when you…
Betty… What about when you get to the state where you can suffer what you are not or what you no longer enjoy doing but you are not quite sure what the next thing is?
Seth… Well, that is the challenge; that is the opportunity.
Betty… Oh.
Seth… Arthur, the idea of learning something is not a longing, you know that if you are not for example enjoying something, but you are doing it routinely that is something that you are. Correct?
Arthur… Yes.
Seth… Therefore, if it is something that you are and are dissatisfied then one must determine what you are not so that you can work towards that to give yourself value-fulfillment.
Frank… That’s like the idea of acknowledging your pain?
Seth… That does acknowledge your pain.
Frank… Right.
Stephanie… If are not enjoying something that you are doing routinely it is something that you are, if you are dissatisfied then you must determine what you are not…
Seth… You understand why change is quite difficult?
Stephanie… Uh huh. To work towards that to give you value-fulfillment.
Shanna … You must work towards what?
Stephanie… That, you know whether you have to be patient or tolerant, to endure…
Shanna… That…
Stephanie… Whatever, negativity…
Shanna… Work towards that and then what?
Stephanie… To give you value-fulfillment.
Frank… So, this is why when you said in an earlier session that people who tend to be happy embrace change. So, the change is coming quickly before you’re so uncomfortable with pain…
Seth… You stay where you are.
Frank… It just continues to build whereas the person who embraces change, it’s a much more free and easy process.
Seth… Correct.
Are there any other questions?
Frank… (The following involves a question about not moving on from an affair. It has not been edited out because it may be helpful to readers who have found themselves in this painful situation. The point stressed here is that if the couple is going to stay together eventually forgiveness needs to be employed.) I have a question about a patient. I’ve mentioned a couple a number of months ago that I am seeing, and I am seeing them individually. This is the couple where the wife had an affair and now at this point the issue of the husband hearing every detail and if he doesn’t hear every detail, he feels that he is being lied to. And this is understandable because there does seem to be some gaps in the story and that kind of thing. And…
Seth… It is the infliction of pain upon himself that is relishing.
Frank… Yes, he is generating that and…
Seth… And he is building up hatred.
Frank… Correct. But I’m not sure where to go in terms of…
Seth… It’s very simple where to go. You put a stop to it.
Frank… By telling him not to do it?
Seth… Yes, what useful purpose does it serve to hear every lewd detail? Does that not cause you pain? Are you not uncomfortable with it? You already know that something occurred. Why is it necessary for you to compare and contrast yourself to the other gentleman?
Frank… He feels that it is necessary not so much to have every lurid detail…
Seth… Sure, it is because it forces his wife to become a victim and he is paying her back for her indiscretions. You’re dealing with heavy anger here.
Frank… I understand.
Seth… And until the idea of when we are moving on to forgiveness occurs there is no useful purpose in doing anything.
Frank… So, there is no more work that needs to be done on whether or…
Seth… It’s not work. If for example, you and I had an affair; what useful purpose for it to be for someone else such as let’s say Jasmine to hear about our lurid past? And what we did and every detail. Would it not eventually be excruciating for her to hear all of these very intimate details where she is left out? Where she then is hearing this and sooner or later, she becomes angry and aggravated, and she takes out her frustrations on her husband? Well, that is all he is doing; he is literally forcing her to repeat the process again. Because she must take solace somewhere, she’s not getting it from him. He is not learning to move along. He is staying there and demanding every horror that she has to confess to. Well, the question is, how long is she going to want to confess to something which is only causing her more pain? Do you understand?
Frank… Yeah! Yeah, I’m fine with that.
Seth… Are there any other questions… we will get back to you in a second.
Stephanie… Okay where you say if you are not enjoying something and are doing it routinely it is something that you are, do most people, are most people aware of either what they are not enjoying or what they are doing routinely…
Seth… How many times have you heard the expression, “I do it because I have to.”?
Stephanie… I do it because… okay?
Seth… I think that answers your question.
Stephanie… So, the…
Seth… And most people, when they are uncomfortable in a situation or make the same repeated mistake over and over and over again, make themselves a victim of whatever that is and then they complain that the other person is not helping. So, what happens is they complain that the other person is not helping yet they refuse to change to allow the other person to change as well.
Stephanie… So, what do you do then?
Seth… You ask them, what is keeping you stuck here? Why are you doing the same things over and over again if you are not enjoying them? And their answer is, I don’t know, it’s very hard to change and your answer is no it’s not. What you have to do is learn not to enjoy doing it. If you are going ahead and remaking the same error, then obviously you are enjoying making the same error. You are getting something out of it. So, you can’t complain about it.
Stephanie… Right.
Seth… Do you understand?
Stephanie… What if you don’t see it as an error?
Seth… Who says they would have to but if they are getting a response from others that is not satisfactory is it an error?
Stephanie… One would think?
Seth… Well, that’s the question you ask. If things are not improving and you keep doing the same thing over and over and over and over and over and over again then you are obviously doing it for a reason. And the reason is, I don’t want to change, I’m going to force the other person to change which is foolhardy because there can be no change then. You understand?
Stephanie… Yeah.
Seth… Are there any other questions? George?
George… I was just thinking about the example that you used with Shanna, saying I am this, I am a teacher unhappy doing this that I am. I want to do something else whether you have a direction or not. I’m just trying to sort through how much of besides the fact that I am satisfied with what I am doing right now I think I know what direction I want to go in…
Seth… Okay.
George… But I don’t feel confidence in that; there are all kinds of…
George… How do you ever reach the value-fulfillment…
Seth… You reach it by understanding that which you are and taking pride in that which you do. So, you are fulfilling a system that you yourself are establishing.
George… I am not sure I understand what you mean by “system”?
Seth… You have a system of living; you have a system of doing things. You are establishing a path for yourself, a road if you will, and that is what is necessary to do. If you accomplish something that is adequate, profitable and enjoyable on that road, you can make changes very easily. It is when you are unhappy, when you are not content, when you are having difficulties that gives most individuals problems. “If I had only! Oh, I should have said that. You know I really needed to do that.” You see the difference now? You are establishing a path that you may choose to take that gives you a sense of increasing your profitability. It may not happen all at once, but it will occur.
George… So, this is the action I take every day in terms of my everyday actions that establishes the pattern that I am living.
Seth… That’s correct and if you are chronically unhappy, dissatisfied or bothered that tells you something.
George… That’s bad.
Seth… It’s not a question of bad, there is nothing wrong with being chronically unhappy if you don’t mind. Do you understand?
George… Yeah.
Seth… Are there any other questions?
Arthur… How does fear fit into that?
Seth… Well, it’s fear of change. Fear of being different. Fear is an absence or a lack of.
Arthur… Hmm. And so, when I had my original question which is what are the dangers and benefits of changing the way I work with Susan, this client, the idea is simply to see what I am and then to decide what I am not…
Seth… No, if you know what you are…
Arthur… Okay.
Seth… and it dissatisfies then you must look towards what you are not and move towards it in a profitable manner. Do you understand that, Jasmine?
Jasmine… I think so.
Seth… Excuse me. Explain it to me.
Jasmine… If you know what you are not…
Seth… You must know what first?
Jasmine… If you know what you are…
Seth… Give me one defining thing that you are.
Jasmine… (Jasmine said the question to herself softly a long pause followed.) Loving mother.
Seth… Fine, you are a loving mother. Are you satisfied with that as you are?
Jasmine… Umm, not completely.
Seth… The answer is no.
Jasmine… Okay.
Seth… So therefore, if you are a loving mother that has certain characteristics…
Jasmine… Right.
Seth… But you are not satisfied with those characteristics, correct?
Jasmine… Right.
Seth… Then what must you do? Look to what?
Jasmine… What you are not, yet!
Seth… Well, look to what you are not and then you will move towards what you are not to improve your profitability as being a loving mother.
Jasmine… Right.
Seth… Does that make more sense to you now?
Jasmine… Yeah, I understand that.
Seth… I know but you have difficulty with it.
Jasmine… Yeah, because it’s very…
Seth… It’s not esoteric; it is very clear that if you are unhappy today…
Jasmine… Em.
Seth… and choose to be unhappy tomorrow that is perfectly satisfactory but if you are unhappy today and do not like it then one must make change, one must shift their role to do something different for tomorrow to make it happier.
Betty… (Betty on the phone but was unclear but about learning something.)
Seth… Most likely not, it is experiencing not learning. You may learn all that you choose to do but accomplish nothing. Do you understand? Betty?
Betty… Yeah, I am trying to like concretize what it is you are saying. So, let’s say I’m not a hundred percent satisfied being a prescriber.
Seth… Correct.
Betty… And then I have to examine that and rather than switch gears and do another career or go back to administration or some other thing I could learn more. I mean part of why I am not satisfied is because I have inherited all these people on tons of drugs so if I have learned how to reduce the amount of medications they’re on then perhaps I can feel satisfied. I don’t feel satisfied with drugging the universe. (Laughs.)
Seth… Would you not have accomplished something?
Betty… I’m sorry, I didn’t hear it.
Seth… Would you not have accomplished something if your skills improved?
Betty… That’s my point; perhaps, I don’t know, I have to try it.
Seth… It is the accomplishment; it is the experience that you gain that matters not just I learned something because if you do not apply it what have you learned?
Betty… Oh, then nothing no, that I then would be able to actually accomplish.
Seth… Correct.
Betty… Things with more confidence which I don’t have.
Seth… So now you may move along.
Betty… Got it, okay.
Seth… Are there any other questions?
Frank… Can you give another example of shifting roles?
Seth… What do you not understand by shifting roles? How would you define yourself?
Frank… Um, I would define myself as…
Seth… A person who constantly over analyzes, that’s a good one.
Frank… I don’t think so. (Kidding. Stephanie laughs.)
Seth… Are you satisfied with the person who constantly over analyzes his immediate world?
Frank… No.
Seth… So, if you are not satisfied, that is something that you are.
Frank… I understand.
Seth… So therefore, you must look towards something that you are not a person who can accept things as they come to pass without being concerned for every nuance, every piece of a puzzle because it is not necessary to understand everything in order to be profitable.
Frank… So, the role change is essentially shifting the role of being someone who…
Seth… You are moving something towards you are not.
Frank… analyzes everything to someone who doesn’t.
Seth… Correct, that’s simple enough. Do you understand?
Frank… Em hmm.
Seth… Are there any other questions?
George… Do you have any suggestions for me without asking a futuristic question in terms of what direction or area that I can look to in order to be profitable?
Seth… First of all, just the question itself is always futuristic but let me give you this: if one is dissatisfied one must make lists and you are, of things you enjoy, things that are neutral and things that you do not enjoy. And once you compile these ideas you may say well, I enjoy this, and I will move towards that or move toward in that direction. Now, you must give yourself an ability to say, “Ah, I thought I would, but I really don’t, or I thought I would and I like it much more then I could have ever believed.” So, there is an idea of setting goals. The idea here of setting goals! There is no one who is profitable without setting a goal. Does that give you a sense of direction?
George… Just continue how I am doing what I am doing.
Seth… Yes, because that is the only path that you have. I could tell you what you would be happy on, but who knows if you would like it.
George… How is that different?
Seth… Because each individual has a myriad of paths that they can take. If I look to the most common ones for you who says they will be truly value-fulfillment. Just because I said so doesn’t make you agree with me. My perceptions are better than yours but who is living the life, you or me?
George… Me.
Seth… I suggest you do so and don’t ask. You don’t need guidance of how to go. What you need is guidance to examine self… large difference. Are there any other questions?
Frank… Could you define value-fulfillment again, please?
Seth… I believe you can look up in any one of the myriads of books that I have written.
Frank… I know but it will be like…
Seth… I know and so, that is one of the things that you are going to report back to us next week that you have looked at it, and defined it.
Jasmine… Does it have to do with your belief system?
Seth… Not only is it a believe system Jasmine, it is that which internally gives you a sense of profitability. If that which gives you a sense of enjoyment of your incarnation. And our friend Frank will report back in detail from my previous writings, next week. That is the first question I shall ask.
Jasmine… What if you are a person who sabotages your profitability, your sense of accomplishment?
Seth… Now, let us look at the fact as a simple matter.
Jasmine… I mean there are a lot of people who do that.
Seth… It doesn’t matter who does it whether it be the man through whom I speak whether it be you whether it be Arthur whether it be anyone who sits around this table. You sabotage yourself because you don’t feel that you are worth being profitable. That is the basic answer to the question. You don’t feel that you yourself are worth being profitable, so you constantly repeat the same mistakes. You constantly repeat that which is not helpful. You refuse to make a change, you become steadfast, and you repeat the same poor judgment systems over and over and over again. It is making yourself not only a victim of yourself but is pushing you further away in reality from that which you truly desire. Remember you can demand anything of anyone and even if they promise or give it to you, it doesn’t mean you have succeeded at anything. Do you understand, Jasmine?
Jasmine… Em hmm.
Seth… Are you satisfied with the answer?
Jasmine… Yes.
Seth… Are there any other questions?
Stephanie… The idea of setting goals, you know, is an interesting one in terms of shifting roles.
Seth… Of course.
Stephanie… You know the idea that once you see what you are not happy in, you know when you are saying, you know you can learn all you choose to but accomplish nothing. You can understand it, but it doesn’t mean you are changing it.
Seth… Correct.
Stephanie… So, if you force yourself to literally write down goals and say well, I don’t like the way I am with this or this doesn’t make me happy the way this thing is, if you don’t make goals for yourself of how you are going to change something, nothing will change.
Seth… And nothing ever does.
Stephanie… Right, but just the idea of looking at concretely like that…
Seth… Use Jasmine’s example here of a loving mother. It is the perfect example that one may use in any number of situations. Well, loving mother may become so overbearing or make so many suggestions or become so involved with a child that the child is stifled and cannot grow and therefore the greatest gift a parent can give a child is the ability to fail. So is that not a measure of a loving parent giving your child the ability to fail.
Stephanie… Yeah, it is just the idea of a person like if Jasmine were to write down literally ways in which she would work towards that in a list.
Seth… What is a goal?
Stephanie… Right.
Seth… What do I choose to do? I choose not to offer opinions. I choose to offer opinions. I choose to not be afraid. I choose to worry because my daughter’s actions are foolhardy. I can go in either direction, it matters not.
Stephanie… En hmm.
Seth… Do you understand?
Stephanie… Yeah, I just think that when you are writing down the goal thing it’s giving yourself a message that…
Seth… It is giving you a sense of…
Stephanie… you have to do things.
Seth… profitability. Therefore, the statement that the man through whom I speak often states, “How would a profitable man act,” is a goal. (Actually, the question is usually how would a prosperous man act? This is a very powerful exercise that the reader could undertake. One first must understand that prosperity is whatever you perceive as a positive direction in whatever aspect of living you view. Then simply throughout the day ask the question, “How would a prosperous man/woman act?” and over time you will find that you tend to head in a direction of growth and prosperity.)
Stephanie… Em.
Seth… So, he is willing to change within that situation.
Stephanie… Em hmm.
Seth… Are there any other questions?
Let me leave you with this: Change is never to be feared. Use your gifts to inspire yourself. Don’t try to be the one who fixes the world. Shift what you are into that which you choose to become and in doing so your needs will be fulfilled and your wants lessened. I bid you all a fond good evening.
(Session ended at 10:05)
