Seth 376
Being Committed
Tuesday June 10, 2008
Typed from notes
Seth… Good evening, pleasure to have all of you here again. (Seth stated that this session would not be recorded as after the lecture we would be speaking, and it would be too personal. Under housekeeping Seth stated that Jerry needed to listen to lectures more diligently.)
Let us continue under our subject of Change. There are three things that make a person. The first is commitment, when one is dedicated to a cause one must feel obligated to enhance that cause. One may tend to go out of their way to improve that which the cause stands for. So, the idea of commitment first must deal with self. You are the primary cause, and your actions must be accounted for.
It is interesting to note that when one does not allow the self to stand up for and participate in the cause one tends to become weak, inefficient and develops dis-ease about the self. The commitment to the self is mandatory for your understanding of who and what you are. It is far too easy to delude yourself and blame others for your own inactions. Your unresolved difficulties make it impossible for you to achieve that which you desire. The idea here of stick-to-itiveness is lacking in these individuals. You cannot become a whole person until you are committed to a course of action that leads you in a path of self-improvement. It is far easier for most to look away and ignore than it is to stand up for yourself. How often have you wanted to say something to someone who you believe has harmed you and or disappointed you in any manner? The avoidance of such confrontation is a clear indication that you have chosen to become a victim on whatever path you are currently on.
One must commit to making themselves stronger. The idea here is the exercise that the soul needs to improve is similar to the exercise that the physical plane body requires to maintain a state of health. When you allow yourself the latitude to become lackadaisical you will attract individuals who are more than ready to take advantage of you.
How does one then go about viewing themselves and literally exercising the body, mind and spirit back to health? First one must commit to a plan of action. It indeed takes effort to achieve your desired goal. It is too easy to delude yourself that you are committed to self by subjecting others to your own intellectual and physical intolerance of behaviors brought upon by the self. One cannot succeed for very long with the idea that you can justify the degradation of someone else to promote your own agenda. You become a literal albatross around the neck of your intended victim. You become demanding of the other and your intolerance does not allow the victim any room for growth. Many individuals wonder why they cannot attract a suitable mate, they fear being alone. It is clear that they live in a perpetual shadow of fear and dis-ease. They are in reality committed to the idea that they must be taken care of.
It should be noted here that these individuals will reject the idea they victimize another and that they don’t really care about how they present themselves to the outside community. They believe they are working hard. They believe they are making changes, but their changes are like shadowy figures one may see on a wall; they have no substance and no depth. Yet these individuals when pressed will tell you how sincere they are, how committed they are to self-improvement and how they challenge themselves on a day-to-day basis. The outside world will note that these individuals only pretend to follow through. When asked to look at their chance encounters or events that swirl around them, they will see the same “evil patterns” repeating. These patterns do not change for in reality these individuals are committed to the status quo. They believe in the lackadaisical nature of the universe. They attempt to justify their inactivity by not looking at facts as they are. They never take the time to pause and reflect. They believe if they move forward, they can and do succeed. However, nothing could be farther from actual fact. They will be kind when necessary. They will attempt to deceive and delude as many individuals as they can. In reality they care only for themselves, and they commit to no one and nothing unless it connects to their desires. The status quo to these individuals is necessary because any change of pattern causes fear in themselves. They routinely delude themselves into believing that they are “smarter” than those around them. They challenge others not to improve the situation but to allow the other to prove them right. Now, it may seem foolish to challenge another, to prove another is correct, yet these ideas fall like rain. If you love me, you will understand I am doing this for your benefit, I miss you, I cannot be without you, I only want to help you, let me do so. All these “challenges” are meant to mystify and engage the other in self-delusional behavior.
I ask which one are you? Are you truly the individual who is committed to self and self-improvement or are you the other? A question that each of you, including any reader must ask: Where do I stand and how do I get there? What justification do I have in asking someone else to do anything that I can do myself? Many individuals fear being left out, deserted if you will. Relationship issues that concern abandonment causes individuals to commit to the status quo. They are afraid of losing. Isabella wanted to ask about a student, well part of the answer is simple, individuals act and react out of fear of being tossed aside. It is notable that these type of individuals demand that you will love me even though I am not worthy of respect. They challenge the others so they can be justified being tossed aside again.
What has to be done? We love you; we are going to help you become what you don’t want to become. We want you to become selfish to promote the self, to become what you truly require and throw away the selfishness that you have out of fear of being thrown away and we will do what is necessary for you to help you promote yourself. This should be the mantra for any therapist, we will do whatever is necessary for you to commit to self. These are the ideas that one needs to study. How does one go about committing to self? It is simple by first liking yourself and knowing that you cannot fail. You cannot fail! If you do not like yourself then my question to each of you is: Who should? If you stand up for yourself and maintain your composure even when the world tells you, you are wrong you will then take time out to pause and reflect about a simple idea: Could I be wrong? And if you are and since you are committed to change properly you will change. But if you are not then the difficulty in standing up to and justifying actions requires commitment, requires dedication, and sincere effort on your part. Commitment to change, commitment to change, commitment to change (This was stated three times.) is what is necessary for every individual who chooses growth over the status quo. Laziness, procrastination, delusional behavior are the hallmarks of individuals who choose to become smaller. They choose to maintain their original place and they do not become all that they can be.
When you have difficulties with an individual there is a central issue, you are not committed to the ending of a problem. If you are still angry and bothered it is the commitment to the end that matters. Why would you stop asking questions until you understand?
When a person is afraid to be done, I need someone to… They hang on to others, they do not allow others to escape their grasp and the other person will cast them off. When things are not the same that is how you know you are changing.
The commitment to self is the call for change by promoting self-growth; it allows you to define and understand your needs and eliminate your wants.
(It is at this point that Seth went into personal material for each person that sat around the table.)
