Change is Beneficial
Tuesday Sept 25, 2007
8:28 P.M.
(Session 346 dictated on Tuesday September 18, 2007, was primarily a private session and is omitted here.)
Seth… Good evening, pleasure to have all of you here again. We will deal with some housekeeping issues. I certainly would appreciate if Kaetorina and the man through whom I speak paid some semblance of attention to their incarnation and knew what they were doing some of the time. Anything more would be a privilege to see and deal with. Both of them have no concept of anything, dreaming is one thing, living your life in a dream state is certainly not what I would consider appropriate under any one’s set of circumstances. Forget about knowing who is doing what number, when they’re done, remembering to do them is just part of living for both of you and I would strongly suggest that you attempt to handle the situation in an appropriate manner.
That being stated the other housekeeping issue that I would like to deal with at this particular time concerns you, Isabella. Now, let us ask a simple question: do you believe Isabella, that when necessary, I give you information that will help you along?
Isabella… Yes.
Seth… Do you believe that from your own viewpoint of course that as a teacher I am here to assist you to help your growth and development if you will?
Isabella… Yes.
Seth… That being stated here, one of the reasons that I have strongly suggested that you stay within this framework, meaning the house of Jasmine and the man through whom I speak is for you to foster your own growth and take responsibility for doing things that are necessary for you as an individual. You agree with this so far?
Isabella… Em hmm.
Seth… Now, that being stated I would like you to take at least at this point full responsibility for your dog Krypto (Certainly a super dog!) in terms of not having someone else walk this dog, not having someone else assist you at all. Now the reason for this is because it then forces you as an individual to come to grips with the idea of this is something that I desire. This is something that I would like to have happen for me, meaning the care and wellbeing of another soul. Do you understand this?
Isabella… Yes.
Seth… Therefore, as of this moment most of the responsibility will be upon you even if you are tired, even if you are exhausted your responsibility is for this. Now you may ask why I am doing this and I am doing this because for example, should someday you decide which is from my research most likely to become a mother you will have to learn responsibility in terms of when you are tired, when you are exhausted, when things do not seem right that you may certainly get help if possible. But if you can’t the responsibility is of course your own and you will deal with this under those sets of circumstances and it is far easier for you as an individual to practice on a soul that requires very little of your attention as compared to a child which requires a great deal more. Do you understand?
Isabella… Yes.
Seth… Now this by no means should be looked at as a punishment. This by no means should you look at this as you are being victimized. What you must learn to understand is that for you as an individual growth and development means making something of yourself, something that you can take pride in without needing to fall back upon anyone else and I am perfectly sure that you as an individual can accomplish all this. Do you understand?
Isabella… I hear you.
Seth… I know you do not like it; I know that you would like to…
Isabella… It’s not a matter of like it or not. I’m not, it’s fine, it’s really not that big of a deal.
Seth… I’m glad that you would say that…
Isabella… But I think it is ridiculous that everybody asks somebody else for help all the time. It’s like I don’t understand like all of the sudden like why it is not okay for me to ask somebody else for assistance?
Seth… I didn’t say it was not okay, I am saying I want you to do more for you even when you are in a situation where it would seem to you to be allowable if you will, to have an idea of asking someone else for help or assistance because for you it is necessary for your growth and development that you learn to properly budget your energies at times.
Isabella… That’s fine.
Seth… And this is basically what you should be aware of.
Isabella… Alright.
Seth… We have been speaking about the idea of Change. One of the ideas of Change is to incorporate within self the idea that for you as an individual you must learn of course to be happy, to be content. To be happy and to be content with that which surrounds you is one of the cornerstones that you must learn to incorporate into your daily existence. Individuals look at something that is different from their normal routine or habitual actions and they for the most part become fearful or worrisome about how and when their actions will conflict with that which is new or different. One must use the old expression that everyday is precious and in truth everyday is change. Everyday must lead you to incorporate something different within your own egocentric viewpoint of the physical plane. One’s viewpoint is shaped and reworked and reshaped due to experience and perception of that which you create. Your creations due to your ability to formulate your own existence are magnified and at times glorified by your perceptions of that which you as an individual become responsible for. In other words, what you desire you create. You bring to yourself that which you have a need for. Yet the idea that each day is a change is often overlooked by most individuals. It is overlooked because of the habitual nature of the routines that are traditionally set up by most individuals who inhabit the physical plane. One must work on the idea that your own happiness depends upon your ability to function with change. Let me give you an example or two. Let us ask a simple question and we shall pass the microphone around we can start with Betty. Betty?
Betty… Yes.
Seth… What is your favorite food?
Betty… Ice cream.
Seth… What type and flavor?
Betty… Anything.
Seth… Oh, that is not good enough and I will not accept that.
Betty… It changes.
Seth… No what is your favorite ice cream?
Betty… Hmm, I couldn’t tell you, I don’t know. It changes.
Seth… I’m sorry, then we will wait for you to pick a flavor.
Betty… Pistachio. (Laughs.)
Seth… Pistachio, that’s fine. Pass this around what is your most favorite food.
Isabella… Umm, I don’t know. Cake.
Seth… What type of cake?
Isabella… Vanilla cake with chocolate frosting.
Seth… Vanilla cake with chocolate frosting, pass it on.
Arthur… Coffee ice cream.
Seth… Coffee ice cream.
Frank… Steak.
Seth… Steak.
Jasmine… Pizza.
Shanna… French fires.
Stephanie… (Giggled.) Really? Lobster.
Seth… Now you all have this as a favorite food. Let us ask a simple question. If you are only allowed to eat your favorite food, for breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks how long would it take you as an individual to become tired of that food? (There was low volume talking.) So, we have people saying one day, we have individuals saying by the second meal. Notice here that I picked something that you would enjoy, that you would relish having. Yet something that you enjoy or have becomes wearisome. It becomes distasteful if you will the more you have it. So therefore, the fear of change is a great benefit to you and to all who inhabit the physical plane.
Frank… The fear of change?
Seth… Is a benefit. People have a fear of change. The idea of change, the fear of something being different, makes individuals resist the idea of change. Yet change itself is beneficial by your own admission that you would not want the same foods at all times. So, it is the fear of that which you do not have that causes individuals to narrow their viewpoints to become affected by even the simplest change in routine. Whereas by your own statements, you require change to prosper so that your egocentric viewpoints are expanded. One must work at change on a day-to-day basis. The complaints that one often hears, “My job is so routine, I’m under so much stress with my job that I cannot endure it! It makes me unhappy. It’s too much effort; too much work that is involved with this type of a job.” Yet for most their standard of living, their true happiness escapes them because they will not allow even the most routine task to bring them pleasure since they look at that task as either stressful or mundane.
Anyone who has a routine must learn to change that routine, shift it, make it different, enjoy the differences. The therapists who sit around this table demand that their patients change. The teachers who also sit around this table require that their students change. But the question for those individuals is quite simple. What do you do as a therapist or a teacher to allow change to happen spontaneously with your students or patients? Are you all not guilty of doing things in a way that is routine and mundane and boring, yet you expect the others that you deal with to accept the idea of change without a problem? An individual who is at stress in work hears that which is unknown, their fears prevent them from clearly thinking. For all they can see is what if!
And for those of you who were here for our series of lectures on “What about me?” will surely remember how stress plays an important part in the existence of voids in what about me? (The “What about me?” Lectures involve the idea that we approach our situations with others and our environment differently. A “What about me?” can be assertive or passive, angry, or sad, etcetera. When asking yourself “What about me?” one can better ascertain if they are promoting themselves in a healthy correct manner. If one is not promoting self and is stressed, voids can be created or existing voids from perhaps childhood can expand. Voids are empty emotional spaces we create within ourselves that feel intolerable, we can become angry, upset, anxious, bothered, depressed. Because a void does feel intolerable and since we are not centered, we seek to fill the void and react poorly, for example having a tantrum.) Each of you must take a vacation if you will, from your own day-to-day existence. Now of course there is nothing wrong with leaving your surroundings for a week or two. But a vacation can be as little as five minutes. It can change your viewpoint. It can bring much needed relaxation and is a gift to self from self. One may simply open a book, read for three to five minutes and drift away. One may look at a picture and enjoy that which you see. One must allow their consciousness to expand. One must allow their viewpoint of that which is to assist you in your vacation time.
There is nothing that is sadder than an individual who believes that everything stays the same. They make excuses for not instead of making excuses for. Most therapists would be out of business if individuals would take a five-minute vacation once a day. This will not eliminate your difficulties. This will not solve your problems, but it will put them into a perspective that you can easily adapt to. There is an expression that one must learn to deal with when something difficult or tragic happens or something that you believe is difficult or tragic. One must ask themselves the following question: In five years will this truly matter? What effect will this have upon me or my family? And for the most part most individuals will state, it truly did not matter. For over time the change that at once appeared so devastating will lose its impact due to the fact that your perceptions of your past will have changed and therefore your past has changed so that your present is different and of course your future will have also have changed.
It is interesting here to note about perception, individuals believe and mostly it is an erroneous belief that if you do a regression through hypnosis or it can be spontaneous, and you look at your past you will be able to make great changes, yet I have a question. Would it not be more profitable if instead of going to a past life one goes to a future life? Perhaps the course you are on now will lead you to areas that you do not enjoy or areas that will not be as profitable as others.
So, my question again is what about change? If you change your present from what you saw in the “future” does that future exist? And the answer is no it does not since you have perceived a different path. The road that you are on has many entrances and exits yet it all leads back to the main path. It is your responsibility and yours alone to determine what your true path is.
Your side trips are but an interesting sidelight for you to gather experience. These are the changes that give you wisdom. Wisdom is gathered by experience. All you need to know you already know. All you need to do you have done. You are the one who is in charge. You are the one who makes decisions about which entrance or exit off your path you will take.
Your experience should be enjoyed. Your vacations, every day you will have one if you use the idea properly. Never do the same thing as a routine as you all have admitted you would not like the same food over and over again. Change that which you “eat” by changing your perceptions; your viewpoints will also change. If you change your future, you will find yourself on a profitable adventure.
Each of you has the ability to allow others to assist you on your path. Use them wisely even when they are disagreeable, even when they are mean, even when they torment you, for these are the individuals who will give you great wisdom. It is what you see in these dishonorable people that will allow you to profit from their difficulties. I have often said it is far easier to view something that is negative than it is to participate in it.
Each of you can always look for the pleasantries of your existence but if everything was always pleasant then your existence becomes boring. Most souls until they are quite well along in their evolution if you will take far too many resting lifetimes where their experience does not profit them. Experience takes effort and the effort to allow change to flow through you is what each of you requires to make any incarnation profitable. Work at change every day. Take your vacations and viewpoint of that which is and that which you are will immediately give you benefits that you at this point of reference cannot imagine.
I believe at this point we shall take a break.
Let us continue: When one refuses to accept differences that life presents, when one wants the status quo to remain intact one deludes themselves into thinking that they are doing all that they can. Anger, resentment are clear indications of errors in judgment, “but what about me,” one must learn to allow themselves to prosper by using Change as an adjunct to their day-to-day existence.
Are there any questions?
Stephanie… In a situation like Bill’s where he’s obviously going through a lot of terrible times at work and…
Seth… Who made the terrible times?
Stephanie… Well, many people in the company, I know you want to say him. But everybody is experiencing the same feeling because the same existence has been occurring with this company for years so if there is a routine pattern of something that’s distasteful what do you do with it?
Seth… By not following the routine, for example, William has to handle the monetary issue of his company.
Stephanie… Em hmm.
Seth… Since he is not in charge if you will, of bringing in the money, instead of becoming stressed of how I am going to find money to pay for these things his responsibility is direct to the owners of the company…
Stephanie… Em hmm.
Seth… and his direct individuals who are above him in the hierarchy of a bureaucracy. So that since money may be lacking certainly, he may be creative in how things are paid and when they are paid and why certain things are paid or not paid. Give us a moment, (When Seth researches something Jerry’s head moves back and forth as if reading.) so but to sit back and complain that I am having phone calls from people who want their money is but saying I don’t want the job with difficulties. All professions have difficulties. All individuals must face their difficulties or be left behind and you will certainly repeat those difficulties in other lifetimes.
Stephanie… But I thought he is being creative. That’s what he spent all these years doing is being creative on when and how he can hold off these people who are asking for money…
Seth… And that may certainly be correct.
Stephanie… Right.
Seth… But to resent it, to hate it serves not a useful purpose because that means you are not in a routine.
Stephanie… So, what is he supposed to feel?
Seth… What he is supposed to feel is saying, I’ve done my best, I’m going to be as creative as I can, I’ve reported to who I have reported to and since I do not own this company I do not have to be concerned with the idea that I am making a mistake and people are judging me. It is his fear of being judged that causes him great difficulties. Do you understand?
Stephanie… Right. So, he takes on responsibility about thinking that he has control over the money?
Seth… Correct, if you are the one who is bringing the money in…
Stephanie… Em hmm.
Seth… that means you have control over the money. He only has control over how it is spent.
Stephanie… Right.
Seth… So, what he does is stress over the money coming in as compared to what he has to do.
Stephanie… Well why does he feel that he is in charge of that?
Seth… He feels that he is in charge of it because he feels that the hierarchy meaning the individuals who are above him are his parents and he does not like to be judged by his parents.
Stephanie… Okay but why would he think that his parents would think that he is in charge of the money?
Seth… Because if you can’t pay, your parents think that you’ve made an error.
Stephanie… But the people in charge don’t truly believe that Bill is responsible for the money coming in.
Seth… But William does not accept that.
Stephanie… What if he asked then that question? Would that help him at all?
Seth… A foolish question to ask.
Stephanie… But what if they were coming down on him and he were doing that to…
Seth… And he was going… it’s not even coming down on him in defense of himself because no one who owns a business who knows how much money is coming in would say to the person who has to pay the bills well it is your fault for not paying the bills, doesn’t make sense.
Stephanie… So, nobody essentially really comes down on him? He just perceives it?
Seth… He perceives as he’s being judged because he can’t factor in this bill to this bill to this bill to this bill.
Stephanie… Right because they are short of cash always.
Seth… Correct.
Stephanie… So, he thinks he should be some genius and make it happen out of nowhere.
Seth… Correct. Absolutely correct.
Stephanie… And why does he believe that’s that…
Seth… Because he was raised with disapproval of his parents. Anytime there was disapproval of his parents he took it very personally as most children do.
Stephanie… Em hmm. So how… alright, so his change would be knowing what that reality is and trying to sit back and enjoy whatever he could possibly enjoy from the company.
Seth… Correct. It is the same idea that Jasmine and Isabella and the man through whom I speak go through.
Stephanie… Em hmm.
Seth… Now let’s say that one is correct or that one is incorrect, it is approval and disapproval that we are dealing with here. In other words, let us assume because it is habit that Isabella empties the dishwasher five days in a row. Well, one would certainly like to be patted on the back and say thank you very much for helping. But on the sixth day she does not have time to do this. Well, it has commonly happened here that one of the individuals is annoyed or bothered by her lack of assistance or the perception thereof. One of the reasons why I have made my suggestions in the way that I have is because Isabella herself must learn the idea that doing a job is doing it for the sake of doing it without complaining about how much I have previously done.
If I ask or if I was questioned on the idea: has she made progress? My answer is of course she’s made progress. But that’s not the issue. The issue is simple, I must learn to do things in a way that profits me greatly and one of the great ideas here is caring for others. Yes, it is tiresome, yes, it is bothersome, yes, it is annoying but in life itself the caring for others has all these factors that are involved. And we will certainly review the beginning portion of the housekeeping session on this tape. We will very clearly and reasonably see the idea that Isabella will just simply not say, “I have to do everything myself. I am not going to do this. I will do this. You don’t count.” It is in one small instance of the using of the idea of walking the dog. I realize of course, nobody is putting on a leash and walking the dog, but it is the coming downstairs from upstairs. It is saying this is my responsibility; this is what I need to do for myself. It is the giving to self that matters here; the giving to myself the ability to do things even when I don’t want to.
Isabella… I do things I don’t want to do all the time.
Seth… I’m not saying that you don’t, and I am not saying not to ask for help. I’m using this one thing to give you an ability to not depend on others. And that is all I have done and by your own admission in the beginning of this tape. I was very clear, and I asked you a number of questions all of which you agreed to and therefore for you to assist yourself is paramount for your own learning and growth. For I will make an assumption that you would like to be better tomorrow than you are today, am I not correct? And therefore, my interests are to assist you.
Are there any other questions? Then I will leave you with this: Change must be made beneficial. It will assist you in fulfilling your needs. It will lessen your wants and it will clear the boulders off the path that you are on. I bid you all a fond good evening.
(Session ended at 9:49 P.M.)
