Seth 409
Backsliding onto The Road to Misery and Formulating an Action Plan
Tuesday June 30, 2009
8:40 PM
Seth… Good evening. A pleasure to have all of you here with me again this evening. Just a little bit of housekeeping. Shirley Sarah it’s nice to see you again from Florida and Kaetorina inform once again the man through whom I speak that unless he makes a conscious effort to do the reading, he will have a strict time limit placed on him.
Kaetorina, I believe that you have a very important question to ask and let us see if you can escape the horror of not following directions.
Stephanie… How does the idea of backsliding affect the way in which one deals with stress?
Seth… Now… Under our major subject of change we have been driving steadily down the road to misery. We have been under stress, and we are now approaching a side road that is labeled backsliding. It is human nature to undertake an endeavor whether that endeavor is profitable or not makes no difference. Human behavior quite simply put is based upon a series of repeatable actions due to stimuli that are created by the unique individual himself. This being stated one forms habitual patterns of behavior. Examples may be seen in the individual who takes the same route to work every day. The person who dresses in a particular manner or style if you will has the same predictable behavior pattern. When individuals seek to make a change, they embark upon a series of measures that will cause them to view the physical plane in a different manner. Examples here are the individual who has decided to stop smoking. They have made a conscious effort to change their patterns of behavior. In doing so they have formulated new patterns that they choose to put into place to prevent their smoking behavior. Now when these individuals have moved from one line of study to another their points of reference have also changed. The difficulty here is that they carry with them the seeds of self-destructive behavior.
These seeds of self-destructive behavior may be classified now as backsliding. The individual will delude themselves into believing that they may have one cigarette without it doing any harm. For most this now leads them off their path of change back down the road to misery since they are unable and quickly become unwilling to reinstate their new behavior patterns. It is obvious that for most the idea of backsliding is not a conscious thought, yet I question the individual who states “do you know how many times I have stopped smoking, lost weight, decided to study harder” or anything else that you may think of. Backsliding itself is pervasive. It causes individuals to lose faith in themselves.
These individuals quickly become victims of their own behavior patterns that are indeed detrimental to their physical being. When one constantly “second guesses themselves” you become ineffective in creating situations that you require for proper advancement on the physical plane. One of the great difficulties that victimization of self causes becomes the literal hatred of self. Individuals who constantly find fault with themselves develop a loathing, not only of themselves but a loathing of all those around them. They seek to cause other individuals to take responsibility for their own failings. It should be noted here that this common type of behavior may be seen in all soul ages up and through the first two steps of old soul age. At that point of reference, the development of a higher sense of view and purpose precludes these souls from acting in this manner.
One of the primary objectives to prevent backsliding is the idea that one must prioritize their actions. Each individual soul follows their own path yet for many this path is fraught with danger of their own making. When one tends to view the physical plane out of fear, patterns emerge that place individual souls on a path where they cannot stand. When one does not deal in fact but only in supposition one then has no basis to view the future with any idea that is factual or may lead the individual soul to a successful conclusion of their question! The pattern here is constantly repeated due to the narrow viewpoint that our individual has towards the physical plane. These individuals become so frightened that they indeed create that which they fear. They constantly state, “I knew this would happen.” The answer is simple if you knew this would happen, why did you embark upon the road to self-destruction? One must develop for themselves a plan of action. Without this plan you indeed have no proper route to follow.
If one is in school and you have a large examination that is looming ahead of you that covers a great deal of information one must then prioritize that which YOU DO NOT KNOW! The most common course of action that most individuals take is to study that which they are most familiar with. They do this due to the fact that they feel safe and comfortable with their previous actions.
Isabella… What if the previous actions are destructive or negative?
Seth… You are confusing the idea of something that is negative or not profitable with the idea that it is harmful. Many things are familiar but not profitable. Examples here may be seen in individuals who worry about the future. Other individuals will constantly criticize themselves over events that they have no control over. Others will eat to excess, still others may become angry and lash out yet; all these actions are familiar patterns of behavior. These patterns of behavior are the backsliding mechanism that individuals use to defeat themselves and push themselves off center so that they lose not only their sense of direction, but they are unable to gain their point of power. If one prioritizes their course of study, you will be able to develop a series of plans that will enable you to chart a course slowly but steadily through unchartered waters. When you then stick to your plan of action you are then able to slowly move from one challenge to another without losing your way. Yes Isabella?
Isabella… The prioritizing the study of that which you do not know is that the opposite of the information that you know already?
Seth… That which you do not know is the change that you are attempting to make. The individual who has decided to stop smoking has no knowledge of what lies ahead in terms of their feelings toward their desire to inhale smoke. The desire to smoke, the physical need to smoke are all part of the unknown. The emotions that connect any line of study to change are difficult to break. It is only when you break these routine habits that change becomes profitable and effective. One of the first ideas that one has is the idea of learning to love self.
The idea here is that one must never become old enough not to fall in love again. When an individual becomes stagnant, they have lost the ability to love themselves. It therefore follows that if you cannot love yourself, you cannot love others. Every day one must make a concerted effort to fall in love again whether it be with a flower, another individual, a long-lost friend. The concept of falling in love is the ingredient that one needs to prevent backsliding so that your plan of action may succeed. It is a difficult concept to understand since the physical plane is indeed a linear type of existence. Most individuals set a goal for themselves, and they believe that they are only content, satisfied if you will when they attain their goal.
Unfortunately, this is not factual. The journey up the hill is far more important than the summit. How you arrive at your destination, what successes you have had, what failures you suffered through are indeed the stimulus that all individuals require to make their journey happy. Success itself is no guarantee of happiness. An example here: How many individuals have won Lotto or have come into a great deal of wealth but are still miserable? The individual who believes that they are ugly and has one surgical procedure after another will always see themselves as ugly due to the fact that their ego is so limited that they do not have the ability to expand and therefore their growth is quite limited. The limitations that one places upon themselves are the belief systems that you operate with, often these are camouflage due to the fact that you have not discovered the true meaning of your beliefs. I will have the man through whom I speak move the tape over.
One of the solutions to this type of difficulty may be seen in the simple idea of saying I love you every day first to self and then to others. One should never miss the opportunity to hug and kiss as many individuals as possible. Please note here that I do not mean the physical act of hugging and kissing. How often have you not appreciated what another has done for you? Do you suspect an ulterior motive? Do you possibly feel that their actions have a hidden agenda? When one does not appreciate others, one sacrifices themselves to the altar of despair. It is quite common that you become fearful and view the world as a place where danger surrounds every individual. In reality you stand on quicksand and sink ever deeper into old patterns of behavior that have already caused you to become what you are. If you learn to hug and kiss and appreciate the others around you, you will then be able to see the bright sun that will give you strength and energy to overcome even the most serious problem.
I believe at this point we shall take a break. (9:34 PM)
Seth… Let us continue. Isabella, let me ask you a simple question. Before you incarnated let us presume that you had a choice that you could have a simple resting incarnation and would therefore require very little energy brought to the physical plane or you had a challenging incarnation that would require a great deal of work which would you choose?
Isabella… Which would I want to choose, or which would I actually choose?
Seth… Which would you choose?
Isabella… The hard one
Seth… Now that you would choose the more difficult of the two. Let me ask you another question why do you want sympathy for that which you have chosen?
Isabella… It’s not sympathy, it’s guidance and advice in dealing with the challenges because sometimes unfortunately those of us who sit around this table are so keenly aware of what our challenges are. People in society don’t know for the most part what specific tasks or challenges lay ahead on their paths, so they are unaware of what they really need to be working on consciously. To me that seems like an easier road.
Frank… You mean ignorance is bliss?
Isabella… Yes, isn’t it?
Jasmine… Next time I would like to have a resting life.
Seth… Let us first start with you, Isabella. Sitting around this table in reality has given you a far easier time since as you clearly stated you are getting advice on how to deal with the challenges as they arrive one by one. The individual who is only concerned with their survival knows how difficult it is to exist on the physical plane, others are trying to understand where they fit into society and how society works. Still others use the physical plane as a source of power and finally all you have to do is to figure out what is my relationship to… (Seth here is highlighting the major learning tasks of Soul Ages. Infant Souls learn how to survive and thrive the complexities of the physical plane. Baby Souls are learning their place and how to fit into civilization. Young Souls learn about power and what they can get out of the physical plane. Mature Souls are learning about relationship to themselves, others and ideas. Old souls who were mentioned earlier in the session learn to view things from a higher perspective and help others with their own learning F.N.) Therefore, which do you believe is harder? Each challenge is meant to allow you to experience that which you require for growth.
Jasmine, as far as resting lives are concerned you have had far too many of them. One of the challenges for you is to learn how to work hard and to force yourself into letting go of behaviors that do not suit you. Your teachers and guides specifically placed you in this position to enable you to “suffer through” that which is required so that hard work becomes a part of your very being.
Are there any questions?
Shirley… Isn’t it better to become complacent rather than to fight against everything that occurs looking for the wrong part? Why look at why someone is out to hurt you? Why can’t you look at just the good parts?
Seth… Shirley Sarah, the two parts of your statements do not go hand in hand. One should never be complacent about anything. One must move forward so that you may experience that which you need. That experience may require pain or pleasure, it matters not. It is the journey that matters. The other portion of your statement about looking for the good is certainly commendable and I agree with the idea that one should always look for the profit in all endeavors yet one must be aware that for you as an individual there are people who will seek to take advantage. By not understanding their actions you victimize yourself and fall prey to their schemes.
Shirley… I think in the long run it is much easier to not expect too much from people and to not be so easily hurt by people. You always have to leave doubt in your mind when dealing with people, not always do they speak the truth. In other words there is good and bad in everything.
Seth… While that is true, one must learn that if you live in doubt and fear which is what you are suggesting, one cannot profit from these actions, one suffers for one does not learn to give of themselves properly. On the other side, since you live in fear and doubt one will find it difficult to accept the goodness of others. It is always necessary to weigh and measure any situation and that is what experience is all about. Kaetorina, you had a question?
Stephanie… This doesn’t have to do with this but about the resting lives that Jasmine has had so many of. I do not understand if the excess has not been profitable than why were so many chosen with the guidance of her guides and teachers?
Seth… Question, do we judge? We can only recommend, the final decision is yours and yours alone.
Shirley Sarah, you had another question?
Shirley… Not important.
Isabella… So how do you get yourself started on a new plan of action?
Seth… One starts any endeavor by first prioritizing that which you seek to change. When one makes a decision that something is important one then should endeavor to formulate a plan so that your ultimate success can be reached. The question here that you have not asked is how do I make this change (Isabella was not writing this down and Seth indicated that she should.) important enough so that it becomes a priority and therefore my experiences will push me in that direction.
Shirley… In other words, you don’t think you should accept things as they come, you should fight against them if you want change? In other words, if you don’t like what’s happening do we have the strength within us to change things?
Seth… The answer is simple you have experienced in your incarnation at least two major mass consciousness events. One The Great Depression and two the Second World War.
Shirley… That didn’t affect me personally.
Seth… Of course it did.
Shirley… In what way did it affect me?
Seth… It affected you by seeing individuals leave for war. There was rationing of food, there were shortages. You had nightmares for years afterwards about the Japanese coming and torturing you. You are aware of the atrocities that individuals suffered because of their faith. It is foolish to believe that these events just happened to others. If there were no individuals who would fight against the depression, millions would have suffered and starved. If there was no one to fight against the evil that was committed, you would have been dead.
Shirley… Granted that what you say is so. I still.. it personally…
Seth… It did personally happen to you.
Shirley… Apparently, it didn’t make that much of a difference.
Seth…. You do not remember clearly unfortunately for you. It made a large difference. For example, your husband wanted to buy a house, but you talked him out of it for fear that he would go off to war and regretted that decision for years. No event that has a mass consciousness effect may be isolated by anyone on the physical plane with the idea that this did not happen to me personally.
Shirley… It’s also true that time has passed, and I don’t think I’m a selfish person and yet I wonder if some of the things that happened in life did not affect me. Is that why I am so complacent? Or is it my age now that has made me feel that way?
Seth… It is your age now that influences a great deal of what you do. It is common that at your age you are desperately trying to hold on and preserve what you believe is the idea of control. As one ages each individual sees their vitality slipping away. That which they were able to do a few years ago is now a difficult task. The control that you unfortunately believe that you have lost in terms of your existence is in reality not a loss but only a change. When one is complacent one does not seek assistance from others. One detests the idea that they should not or cannot do certain things. This is an unfortunate way of existing for you. You must learn even at this stage that your existence is created by you. The more you try to prevent change the more difficult your existence is.
Let me leave you with this: Backsliding is the resistance to change. It is the fear that one exhibits that prevents profitable experience. You only magnify your wants, your needs go unfulfilled, and your stress levels increase. I bid you all a very fond good evening.
(Session ended at 10:18 PM)
