Seth 403
Disappointment and Three Concepts: Fortune, Success and Dreams
Tuesday May 12, 2009
8:38 P.M.
Seth… Good evening, a pleasure to have you here with me again this evening. Eventually we shall continue with our major topic of change and once again we shall be on the road to misery when we face disappointment. It is obvious that most of you still have questions on this topic. There are three things in anyone’s incarnation that you will not be certain of and depending on your restricted viewpoint can and will lead you on the road to misery.
The first is fortune. When someone views luck, money as a give all and end all the fortunes that you would hope to possess flow through your fingers as sands through an hourglass, they slip away. The disappointment that individuals have in not obtaining something is a clear indication that you are disappointed with the end result of that which you hoped to obtain. There is an old saying that one must be happy with what they have as compared to that which they want. It is clear that when one is satisfied one obtains contentment because you are not looking at something else. Good fortune is created by you. The same is true with something that is unfortunate. You create it! (Jasmine asks for clarification on the dictation and understanding that we create our own fortune and misfortune, and Frank and Stephanie give it.) Given these facts one may understand that the responsibility for not being disappointed lies with the creator. One may obtain wealth in any way and still feel that there is not enough, they are disappointed because of the fact that someone has more. The individual who lives just above the poverty line and finds a slightly better job will be satisfied with what they have since they created their good fortune. Children often find themselves in a position of praying that the examination that they are about to take is easy. Those who studied feel fortunate by the outcome of this examination. Those who believed that they studied are disappointed since their fortunes have turned against them. YOU ARE WHAT YOU CREATE. The responsibility has always rested with the individual no matter how desperate times seem.
Our second idea is success. The question here is how does one define success? If your definition is wealth, and you obtain it then you are not disappointed. Many individuals here would define success as happiness. If you enjoy your surroundings, if your simple pleasures of your existence give you comfort, if a sunset causes you to pause and wonder about the beauty that surrounds you, then of course you are successful. Each individual will have success and failure that varies from moment to moment. What you do when you are disappointed determines how far down the road to misery you go. No individual who incarnates escapes the physical plane without a series of failures. Failure itself should never be viewed as something to be avoided. It is inevitable that each of you will fail at something. How you handle that failure determines how your view of the physical plane is being shaped. Is it narrow so that you have mono-vision or is it expansive and so wide that you clearly see many paths that lead to success? Each individual always has opportunities to change their path, most however choose to go straight forward down the road to misery since their vision is clouded by envy. When one views success as obtainable one opens doors that heretofore were closed. (At this point the tape was not on, and the following section is from notes.) Even partial success allows the individual to bathe in the clear waters that nourish and surround all who inhabit the physical plane. One must notice that full success is often not obtainable since that idea leads one towards the idea of perfection which in and of itself is impossible.
Our third idea is that of dreams. One must never be afraid to dream or aspire to something greater. The question here is where do your dreams and reality meet? The child who dreams of becoming a pro-basketball player and practices routinely but only stands five feet six inches tall must learn to modify his dreams since the idea itself is not obtainable. The same is true with adults who dream of a better job but lack the internal drive to achieve that goal. These individuals do not embrace change, they are rooted in the idea of wishful thinking. They routinely say why not me? Their dreams and aspirations many times are not in touch with reality. These individuals detest the idea that they cannot have or possess something. Their goals are not realistic. Quite often these individuals are frustrated and angry at what they perceive is the world that hinders their growth. They blame others for their failures. They know that the world is against them since they place themselves in positions where they cannot succeed. These individuals often become bitter and lonely. Their social skills fall away since they cannot relate to others, they become desperate for the success that is often just out of reach.
Disappointment itself must be used correctly so that one embraces unpredictability. This in and of itself does not mean a negative idea or event. Good fortune and success are just as unpredictable as the horror of failure. The parent who is disappointed in their child’s progress at school or their child’s inability to make their team sport does not embrace the unpredictability of life itself. The child who struggles at school will at times come home with an A where heretofore a C would have been acceptable. The individual who asks for a raise since they believe that they deserve it but receives only a token does not possess the wisdom to look at himself to determine the reasons for the poor increase in salary. It is far too easy to pretend or look away from the obvious. Are you ready for the change that suddenly comes? How do you handle that change? These are the simple facts that each individual struggles with on a day-to-day basis. (This is where the tape picks back up.) Individuals who consider themselves adaptable will easily move with the winds of change that constantly flow around the human condition. These individuals enjoy the idea that there are sudden differences in their existence. They do not wander about looking for the easy way, they accept the challenges and hardships that the unpredictable nature of life itself provides.
Nothing is guaranteed to provide success; one must look for success in self instead of the event. These ideas of success, failure are often disguised in difficulties or challenges that one must overcome so that growth may occur. One can never hide from the idea that one must learn to be flexible. When you are not flexible you become rooted and grounded in a position that does not allow change. It is easy to become disappointed with the situation that moves away from you since you cannot and will not change your stance on an idea. These individuals state this is the way it was, and this is the way it must be. Unless one is able to be flexible one cannot accept the fact that they may be wrong or out of touch with the events that present themselves to you on a day-to-day basis. If one is not flexible one hinders the others around you. You do not allow for their growth and their success. You push them and yourself down the road to misery because you are disappointed by the ways in which their existence does not allow for your ideas!
When you are not flexible you tend to exclude others’ feelings. You tend to be alone and do not cherish “family” values and ideas. You tend to remove yourself for what you believe is in the best interest of others. This idea does not allow you as the individual to interact properly with the other members of your “family”. The interaction here is always one sided. You will do what is good for you and not what benefits others. These types of individuals become disappointed when others challenge their position. They are frustrated because they cannot have their own way. They become so disappointed that their anger lashes out to anyone who attempts to bring them back to the reality of “family life.” (Seth suggested here that Jasmine ask Jerry to print out this session for her to read.) It is quite difficult for these individuals to look at themselves since they see themselves as unfortunate, their success escapes them, they are mired down in dead-end positions and their dreams are always left unfulfilled. It is easy to see why these individuals are jealous of others’ social interactions since they cannot and will not bend. They believe that they are always being victimized by others. They do not see themselves as inflexible. Their battle cry is why not me; don’t I count?
In simple terms one must not create that which you do not want. The examples this evening clearly demonstrate the idea that most individuals are disappointed when they do not obtain that which they desire. Yet, these individuals never take responsibility for that which they do not do. They are jealous of others. They look at the others’ success, happiness, good fortune in a way that victimizes themselves. These individuals believe that they themselves are not worthy. Their disappointments in life may be balanced on a scale and they clearly see the weight of unhappiness that hangs heavy in their own existence. When these individuals learn to create in a proper manner and look for the beauty that is always there, they will find that their existence improves, and they do not have to be miserable by what they believe are the injustice of the court of life. These individuals will eventually come to the conclusion that they themselves are responsible for that which goes on and when they become responsible for themselves the heavy hand of unhappiness will lift.
Disappointment itself is a normal and desirable fact that each individual must face in their own way. When you handle disappointment correctly you benefit from that idea, when you do not you suffer.
I believe at this point we shall take a break. (9:37 PM)
Seth… Let us continue. Disappointment itself and change are interconnected. When one is disappointed one must be able to change. When individuals refuse to adapt to new or different situations, they have clearly placed themselves on the road to misery.
Are there any questions?
Stephanie… Now that you have made me upset about Bill and feel disappointed so that I feel hopeless there what should I do? (Stephanie said this in a humorous manner and Frank is laughing.)
Seth… Memorize last week and this week’s lecture. Do you realize how foolish that statement was on your part? Do you not see yourself just by your own question in today’s lecture? The answer is yes. Now you may ask your next question.
Stephanie… Could you give me statements to say to myself when I feel disappointed so that it could bring me back to center?
Seth… Disappointment and change are an integral part of the human experience. When one is disappointed one must be able to allow change to occur. If you do not, then you are surely placing yourself on the road to misery. As previously stated, disappointment is a natural idea and feeling that all who inhabit the physical plane experience. When one is disappointed as an example the failure of a child to do well in school, the husband who does not promote himself, (Seth as an aside stated, “Now read that and understand what I just said, read it out loud.” Stephanie read out loud.) one then has the opportunity to rise above the disappointment and allow oneself to be flexible enough so that change may occur.
Do you understand?
Stephanie… So, the opportunity you are speaking of is the idea that things could then turn positive, but I am not being flexible enough to allow the possibility of this to occur?
Seth… The issue here has nothing to do with you, it has to do with others. When you are not flexible enough or adaptable to change then no matter what the other does your viewpoint of their change is limited and whatever they do will be considered ineffective or wrong.
Stephanie… So, a large portion of my problem is my difficulty with allowing change?
Seth… Correct, since you fear that which you do not know.
Stephanie… You mean failure? The fear of? Or the fear of…
Seth… That which you do not know causes you to become stationary in your belief system. You are not adaptable to an idea that is contrary to your own belief system.
Are there any other questions?
Betty… I have a question that is similar. My question is about how to handle disappointment properly. If I am understanding it properly then one views disappointment as part of life that provides an opportunity for change like the Rolling Stone song you don’t always get what you want, you get what you need. (The Rolling Stones’ song “You Can’t Always Get What You Want” was written by Mick Jagger and Keith Richards in 1968 and released on the “Let It Bleed” album. I often think of this song when Seth brings up the want versus need concept. The reader should consider how important this concept is as it directly relates to what you create in life. Seth ends with this concept almost without exception in every session. FN)
Seth… As previously stated, disappointment is of course a part of life. It is what you do with that disappointment that matters.
Betty… When you are disappointed than it’s a signal to change or self correction is in order.
Seth… That may or may not be factual. For example, one may be disappointed in not winning the lottery. The only thing to change here is the idea that it is obvious if one truly believes they are going to win as most people who buy tickets for the lottery do since no one would go in and say, “I know I’m not going to win but I am buying one anyway.” This disappointment in not winning is obviously minor but it serves as an example of what to do with many disappointments. Do you let the disappointment control you or do you let it go? The answer is obvious. There are disappointments that will require change.
Are there any other questions?
Frank… I’m swimming a bit from this session. I’m not sure if this question was already answered. I don’t fully understand, and could you elaborate on the idea of “most individuals will find they may experience that which they desire when the desire is put into a proper context.”
Seth… And your question is?
Frank… I can see the flexibility being a partial answer but when I originally read the words, I think oh, one has to accept limits or be realistic, but I know that the statement means more than that and I would like you to elaborate on that.
Seth… The statement itself may be viewed in terms of tonight’s lecture, fortune, success, dreams, unpredictability, acceptance, flexibility and creativity all play a part in allowing one to obtain what they desire in realistic ways.
Do you understand?
Frank… One may not be able to get exactly what they desire now but by using creativity and the rest of the things that you suggest, one can create a context in which to get what you desire possibly at some point.
Seth… Possibly at some point but is your desire realistic? One must view that idea with caution.
Are there any other questions?
Arthur… The idea that good fortune is created by you and similarly something unfortunate is created by you so what happens to a baby in a crib, the baby creates that?
Seth… If one is speaking in the largest possible sense of creativity the baby creates that which it requires. If you are speaking about Sudden Infant Death Syndrome that is quite a different matter since specialized souls are there to assist in these difficult situations and the learning that occurs is for the family and not for the child. Does that answer your question?
Arthur… Creating, the baby creating what it needs, requires, is a learning experience and they require a learning experience? (Rephrased as the following.) The baby may require a learning experience?
Seth… Why are you separating that which a baby creates as compared to what an adult creates where in reality there is no difference? Remember you are not the child. A child creates in the same manner as an adult, there is no difference. You are looking at this in a linear fashion instead of realizing that you are complete when you enter the physical plane. If you were speaking about soul age and what step you are on, then an adult or baby creates according to that formula. The baby and the adult create in the same manner.
Do you understand?
Arthur… I’m not sure. If we are complete when we enter the physical plane….
Seth…. Your soul and a percentage of your power sought of speak comes with you; you are complete. What you are here for, meaning on the physical plane, is to experience that which you already know.
Arthur… So, in a sense the baby signed up for that?
Seth… My answer to you is partially true. I would suggest that you read a book by Newton, “Journey of Souls” which will give you a very basic idea of these facts.
Are there any other questions?
Seth… Before you ask that question, be careful! (I have no idea in August of 2016 what this meant back in May of 2009. I may have not then asked a question I was going to. I cannot tell from the tape. This would not have been the first time Seth would know what you were going to say and issue this type of warning to me or another student. For me it would usually involve “getting lost in the forest.” Invariably this would result in a consequence, often typing up the session. FN)
Frank… I would like some assistance in working with my patient who now believes she has multiple personality. There are two questions here. One, my understanding is that to work with her I need to focus on helping her to make friends with the other part of herself and to work as a team? Is there more to it than that?
Seth… Before embarking upon this road, one must be absolutely certain of the validity of this person’s statement. In past sessions has she described a loss of time where she blacks out and does not know how time escaped her?
Frank… No.
Seth… Has she demonstrated the idea in session with you that there are a number of personalities within her other than stating it? Have you seen any other personalities?
Frank… No, she reports it. (She reported that at times she would hit herself and that a part of her would say abusive things to her. She felt this was a separate personality. While she was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and in the past with bipolar disorder the quality of this symptom was not that of a auditory hallucination.)
Seth… If she does not show it, then I doubt the validity of it. If she does not routinely report blackout periods, then I question it. I believe you are skilled enough in hypnosis that this should also be a modality of yours so that you may question this individual. I believe you have enough information. (As follow up she did not respond well to hypnosis but came to understand that she was just being extremely harsh with herself like her parents were and was not taking responsibility for that harshness. FN)
Frank… The other stuff with the book she found involving the channeler and the coincidence that she was infatuated with the soul mentioned before her knowledge of said book. Does any of this matter?
Seth… No. When one is infatuated, one tends to give credence to that which one believes is factual. We have enough on this.
Frank… Okay.
Seth… Let me leave you with this. Change is a constant. Disappointment should lead back to change when necessary. When you change you will find that your needs are obvious and easily met. When you do not and are inflexible you will always be left wanting. A hearty good evening to all.
(Session ended 10:33 PM)
