Seth 404
Disappointment and Feeling Broken
Tuesday May 19, 2009
8:25 PM
Seth… Good evening. A pleasure to have all of you here with me again this evening. As we shall start with a small bit of housekeeping: Jasmine you must get back to your reading since you are having difficulties. The same thing is true for you Kaetorina. That being stated Kaetorina, you have a question?
Stephanie… When you feel disappointed over and over again why do you end up feeling broken? Is it because you feel that the disappointments are your fault?
Seth… This fits nicely into our major subject of Change leading one down the road to Misery, disappointment and now you are broken. The question here is how does one define the concept of broken? In its simplest form the idea is that you are not whole or incomplete if you will. This belief system is obviously detrimental to all those who follow this path. First the idea of being broken leads one to believe that they are responsible for the difficulties that seem to surround them. When someone disappoints you and you take that concept into yourself thereby making it part of you, your belief system then engages this concept, and you erroneously believe that you are not whole. This of course leads you to despair and unhappiness. One tends to believe that even when you make an error you are responsible for the other person’s misery. This of course is untrue. When you take in a negative line of study you become instantaneously part of those concepts. You tend to believe that if you were better, smarter, you would be able to deal with these disappointments in an appropriate manner than you heretofore have done.
Since you feel incomplete you make yourself responsible for that which you believe are the true facts that surround you. One of the great difficulties here is the fact that you do not ask questions of self or of others in dealing with these type of situations. Acceptance here is the downfall of your own belief system. Your psyche suffers due to the fact that your limited viewpoint on this particular matter does not allow you to function as a whole individual. You trap yourself in a series of beliefs that cause you to victimize yourself in response to the disappointment of another. Individuals, when faced with these types of situations due to their ego problems limit the intake of information from the physical plane side of your existence. They literally cut themselves off from information from higher realms. In doing so they only receive information that is detrimental to their psyche since that information is restrictive by its own nature.
These facts cause individuals to feel incomplete, broken if you will, since they have no outlet for their gestalt of feelings that surround them. One cannot function properly when you eliminate the largest supplier of information that anyone can have. Your connection with the second framework should be your greatest resource so that you may establish a working relationship with unlimited supplies of energy and information. The concept here of not being complete is obvious even to the most casual observer since in reality you are incomplete due to the fact that you are not receiving and processing all the information that you require.
This type of information that you eliminate causes anger on your part as well as anger on the part of another. Since you literally provoke another because you did not ask a question, your viewpoint cannot be accurate since you do not and cannot understand where the primary individual is coming from. What happens in these cases is that you do not approach the disappointment anew. You reflect back upon previous situations that are similar in nature to the one you are going through. When you do this, you will often find that your assumptions are erroneous. This of course will lead you down the road to misery since you will blame yourself for placing yourself as well as another in a situation that was not meant to be! What is broken here is the concept of challenging yourself so that you may establish a correct line of information between you and another as well as a proper line of communication to yourself. How often have you chastised yourself for your inability to understand what the other truly meant?
It should be noted here and clearly understood that you are who you are and not what you do. This concept must be considered in any discussion with others. If you understand what you are, you will then be able to convey your feelings on any particular matter that confronts you. The question also arises how many times have you done something that you regretted? How many times have you made an error in judgment? It is clear that one does not define themselves by what you do. Please note that I am not saying that one should not take responsibility for their actions. If you have hurt someone, if you have accused someone then of course you should apologize if you have made an error. Unfortunately, most individuals define themselves by these type of actions. My question to them is simple if you have made an error the only way you can properly define yourself is by stating I am not perfect. If one acts in a cruel manner routinely you are then establishing the concept that you are that type of an individual. Are you an individual who becomes insulted when someone else accidentally bumps you? What are you stating to the physical plane about yourself?
Most individuals use the concept of how you act to define themselves or another. These actions themselves limit growth. Your viewpoints are fractured since it is impossible for anyone to define you in a fair and just manner. This is not to imply that your actions themselves may not be fair or just in any particular situation. An example here may be seen with the idea of a man who is at work and has had an argument with his wife earlier that day. Someone at work gives our individual a slightly difficult time and the response is often equated to a nuclear explosion. Therefore, to an outsider looking in you would define our individual as being mean, inappropriate, unjust, and insensitive yet without knowing the true story how can one define this type of individual? Our individual who exploded commonly is remorseful over their actions, yet they do nothing to rectify their behavior since they are embarrassed by their own actions. Often, they are defensive and try to justify that which occurs as appropriate since they cannot look at themselves.
In many cultures it is appropriate to learn to weave your own life. There are many tentacles and roads that interconnect you with other individuals not only on a day-to-day basis but on a spiritual and emotional basis as well. When you are “broken” you close off to the concept of interconnecting that which you are to that which someone else is. You do not allow for free communication of concepts or ideas that seem difficult to you. Your ability to interact with others is a mainstay of your own growth and development. Without the ability to interact one does not have the ability to change, to prosper and certainly to experience all that is required of any individual who inhabits the physical plane. The web that you weave must have roads that allow interaction between you and anyone else who accompanies you on whatever path you are taking. When individuals isolate themselves their viewpoints narrow, they do not function on a level that promotes experience. Their experience is limited by their own inability to allow ideas from themselves to be incorporated into the mass consciousness of the physical plane. Mass consciousness itself is something that must be profitable if your experience on the physical plane is to be made whole. Since it is impossible for any individual to live in a vacuum your dependency upon others increases as you advance on the road of knowledge. You cannot experience all that you hope for without interactions with others. It should be noted that all experiences are not the same. Some will be positive and others negative, but this in itself matters not since the experience of any line of study demands that where there is right there must be left. These facts cannot be denied.
One moment please. (At this point Seth turned over the tape.)
One of the difficulties with individuals is that they do not free themselves of that which they desire. Far too often the concept of “that is what I want” is used to allow individuals to victimize others. They use the concept of that which one desires as a need when in reality it is a want. You cannot be whole unless you understand the difference between your wants and your needs. Language here is an ineffective tool to convey this concept. Far too often individuals become focused on a particularly small desire. They use this concept to drive them towards an imaginary goal, yet the goal is always elusive due to the fact that their wants are never met. They literally break themselves apart in an attempt to achieve something that is impossible to grasp. The individual who cannot understand how to react to disappointment becomes obsessed with the concept of how do I react to someone who disappoints me?
These individuals tend to eliminate individuals who disappoint them. They do this since their concept of disappointment is flawed. They’re looking for individuals who are perfect and who will always meet their needs. It is obvious at this point that the perfect individual does not exist. When you attempt to eliminate disappointment from your existence you will quickly find that you are isolating yourself from the rest of humanity. It is how you handle disappointment that matters. If you jump into the pool of disappointment without taking a swimming lesson you will quickly drown in that pool. One cannot swim when you are weighed down by your own actions. Each individual must first ask questions of the other to establish a line of communication so that the full scope of the event may be understood. Without a clear understanding of where the other individual is coming from it is impossible to react anew to balance what appears to be an old situation against a current problem. Far too often you come to what appears to be a familiar situation and one reacts to this situation in your usual manner, and only later do you find out that this situation had very little to do with what you thought it did.
The concept of being broken here is explained by a lack of information that one obtains from any particular set of ideas. Let me be perfectly clear, most arguments and misunderstandings occur because of a lack of information. Two individuals tend to explode at one another since they are so sure that they are correct as compared to the other. To repair a broken item, one glues it back together. I suggest the same procedures and ideas be used in terms of communication to repair the self as well as the other. When one is in pain due to a specific problem it is necessary for you to use that pain to assist others who have a similar problem. It is often said that you cannot understand what I am going through. While that may be true in some instances the pain that you have dealt with can and should be used to assist other victims of the same malady. Use your discomfort to mend a broken heart not only will you find that the other will be grateful for your assistance, but you will also find that you will have helped yourself in the same way.
I believe at this point we shall take a break. (9:40 PM)
Seth… Let us continue. In order to allow the session to continue I will simply state are there any questions?
(Frank mentioned that he had a question about a patient that could wait until the end of session. Seth said no, that this material was too important and would be the only thing we would deal with this evening.)
Rick… I want to clarify something. You said it is clearly understood that you are what you are and not what you do. This concept must be considered in any discussion with others. My question is who are the others and what is the meaning of that statement? Why is that statement important?
Seth… The others in this statement are any individual that you have dealings with. When one is judged by what you specifically do without knowing the full background it is quite likely that an imperfect judgment is made by the person who is judging you. You are responsible for defining who and what you are and if you are responsible for yourself then you become responsible for your actions. If your actions are irresponsible, hurtful, annoying then of course you will have an opportunity to redefine yourself by correcting that which you have said or done. With this course of action, you define self, you are stating who and what you are, and your actions are secondary to you since they are a result of what you believed they should be.
Are there any other questions? (There was a very long pause. Seth’s lecture was quite long. He spoke straight without any questions interspersed; he had to turn the tape before taking a break which was unusual. I believe we may have been a little overwhelmed and therefore had no questions.)
If you are all satisfied, I will leave you with this: When you are feeling disjointed you are incomplete since you are not allowing information from the second framework to flow into you. When you do not communicate with others to obtain vital information you are broken since your viewpoint is so narrowed. When you expand that which you deal with you will find that your needs will be met. When you contract and do not allow a proper flow of information all you will receive is want.
A most hearty good evening to all.
(Session ended at 10:09 PM)
